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You Can't Sit with Us: An Honest Look at Bullying from the Victim

Nancy N. Rue, Nancy Rue
You Can't Sit with Us: An Honest Look at Bullying from the Victim

Bullying doesn't end in the hallway anymore--with a smartphone or tablet, it can happen "anywhere." According to the Ambassadors 4 Kids Club, one out of every four students is bullied--and 85% of these situations never receive intervention. Parents, students, and teachers al... Read More

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Bullying doesn't end in the hallway anymore--with a smartphone or tablet, it can happen "anywhere." According to the Ambassadors 4 Kids Club, one out of every four students is bullied--and 85% of these situations never receive intervention. Parents, students, and teachers alike have amped up discussions on how to solve the bullying problem for a networked generation of kids.

Written by bestselling author, Nancy Rue, each book in the Mean Girl Makeover trilogy focuses on a different character's point of view: the bully, the victim, and the bystander. The books, based on Scripture, show solid biblical solutions to the bullying problem set in a story for tween girls.

You Can't Sit With Us tells the story of Ginger Hollingberry, a new sixth grader at Gold Country Middle School. Ginger has been the brunt of teasing and taunting from the queen bee of GCMS, Kylie Steppe, and her so-called Wolf Pack. Kylie and the Pack favor a new and especially hurtful medium of taunting: social networking. What follows is a candid look into the growing world of cruel cyberbullying, showing kids that bullying doesn't always end at school--it can now follow you even into your home and torture 24 hours a day.

Product Details:
Page Count: 224
Released: 12/2014
For Ages 9 to 12
  • Store Only: Yes
  • Product type: Book
  • Format: Softcover
  • Release Date: Nov 13, 2014
  • UPC: 9781400323715
  • Volumes/Discs: 1
  • Pages: 224
  • Publish Date: Dec 2, 2014
  • Language: English
  • Audience Age Maximum: 12
  • Audience Age Minimum: 9
  • BISAC: "JUV033220"
  • ISBN: 1400323711

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An authentic voice on a hard topic by Sofia Marie of Teens Live for Jesus on 12/20/2016

Typical Ginger: "“Now, tell me the names people call you. Think of them as the labels they put on you.” I didn’t remind her we only had fifteen minutes left. “Annoying,” I said right away. She wrote Annoying on one of the notes and stuck it on the front of my T-shirt. “What else?” “Loser,” I said. That went on a note and then on my shirt. We continued with Smelly, Not Girly, Loud, Obnoxious, Klutz, Weirdo, Fat, Freak, Bullhorn, Stupid, and Ugly."

After all that had been done about anti-bullying, Ginger thought she was finally safe from the Pack's tauntings. Wrong. Kylie and her friends have resumed their bullying - now undercover. They have ways to hurt her without anyone ever being able to pinpoint it to them. And this time Ginger can't tell others about it... or something worse might happen.

Ginger's voice was really authentic. I liked getting to know more about her and what she felt about her mom dying years ago and their family's constant moving. It hurt when she couldn't sit with her friends anymore because the bullies said so. The way Ginger grew and matured throughout the story is simply beautiful.

Bullying isn't a joke. It's real and it's out there. You Can't Sit With Us deals more with the word-bullying than the hit-and-punch bullying. The type of bullying that leaves you feeling like a looser and a nerd. The type that threatens a girl through email and spreads rumors on Twitter and vandalizes her dad's car. The type that's hard to pin point and that's easy to miss for the adults. But it's still there.

"You Can't Sit With Us" is Nancy Rue's second book in the anti-bullying series. It is told from the bullied girl's point of view. Ginger learns that sometimes bullying won't go away and that she can't give away the power to be herself even when it's hard. There is also discussion on how to do that.

If you want some great fiction with an even greater message, you might enjoy this book. The first one - "So Not Okay-" is told from the bystander's point of view. "Sorry I'm Not Sorry," the third book, is told from the bully's point of view.

If you'd like more information on the anti-bullying campaign you can visit the movement's website.

Great Read For Everyone by krystlbear on 1/22/2015

The “Mean Girl Makeover” series is just one book series by author Nancy Rue. She has series for tweens all the way up to adults. She has a great writing style that is great for both young kids and adults. I’m interested in reading more of her books. The age range for this book series it 9-12, but I would recommend that parents read it as well. Bullying happens was too much and I think we should be prepared to discuss this with our children. We should teach them what being a bully is, how to handle being bullied and how to react if they see someone being bullied.

This book allows us to see what the victim is going through.

I would recommend everyone to read this series, even if you are directly related to a bullying incident.

Review from Rambles of a SAHM by Fitzysmom on 1/14/2015

This was a difficult book to read . . . in a good way! You Can't Sit with Us is the second book in the Mean Girl Makeover series. This time we get to look at bullying from the perspective of the one being bullied. As a mom it just made me cringe. All the ugly behavior of middle school girls is splashed on the page and it is both heart-rending and anger inducing.

The first book in the series was So Not Okay and the story focused on the perspective of Tori who was a bystander to the bullying. This time around the focus shifts to Ginger who is the new girl and the bullying target of Kylie. I was struck by how my emotions shifted back and forth in this story. I found myself thinking, "Kylie, why do you have to be so mean? It just makes you so ugly." Then a bit later I would think, "Don't do it or say it Ginger! You know the outcome won't be good." And all along the way I just wanted one of the Tribelet to speak up. I felt like my shoulders were up around my ears just from the stress of it all.

Unfortunately the reason I had such a strong reaction to the story was because it is very real. Add the thought of it being your daughter that is being bullied is enough to make a momma come unglued! The really good thing about this whole series is that Nancy Rue uses the characters to teach very important lessons on bullying that can be applied to real life situations. As a mom I would highly recommend this whole series for moms and daughters to read and discuss together.

I received a copy of this book to facilitate my review.

Relevant for today's tweens by SavingsInSeconds.com on 1/2/2015

If you have a girl in your life who struggles with the social scene (especially social media) this is a book to read together. It's difficult to establish guidelines for teens when they see the grownups behaving badly. You Can't Sit With Us allows girls to experience a trial run of these social situations so that they are better equipped to handle similar conflict in real life. I received this book to review from Thomas Nelson. Opinions shared here are 100% mine. You can read my full review on my website.

A powerful and beautiful look at an ugly subject by CTF Devourer on 12/3/2014

Kylie pinched the side of my hand. She might as well have just shouted, “You can’t hang out with them anywhere, so don’t even think about it.”
Now I had to figure out how to avoid the Tribelet for the rest of the day. As I made my way to my seat, I realized that was going to be hard because, in one lunch period, I’d gone so far backward that I didn’t even know which way I was facing.

Book: You Can’t Sit With Us by Nancy Rue, Thomas Nelson Publishers, 2014
Genre: Realistic Fiction
Target Audience: Girls 11-15
Subjects: Bullying, Family Relationships, Friendship, Death of loved one, Truth
Summary: For one week Ginger’s life changed for the better. For one week she was free from the fear of bullying that had consumed her life. But it didn’t last long. Kylie and the pack just learned how to be sneakier about the bullying so that teachers couldn’t catch them. And now Ginger isn’t necessarily the only target. It’s almost an attack on her family. Because Ginger spilled some information about her mom that the mean girls fully intend to use against her. The threat is simple: stop hanging out with Tori and your other friends and we won’t spread lies about your mom all over school. In fear Ginger agrees and starts avoiding her friends. It makes no difference though. The pack wants to ruin her life as much as possible. So now that she’s alone, she’s more attacked than ever. Social Media is one of the ways used to get around the teachers and spread the lies. Ginger knows that she has to keep it all a secret for the sake of her dad. But how? The bullying is getting worse all the time.
Notes: The second in the Mean Means Makeover Trilogy, You Can’t Sit With Us gives the perspective of the victim. The first book looked at the situation from the perspective of the bystander and the third book will be from the perspective of the bully. This story picks up right where the other one left off. Kylie and her friends had gotten caught and punished for their bullying and the school created an anti-bullying code. But Kylie and her friends are smart enough to find ways to sort of go underground with the bullying. The most effective thing they do is alienate Ginger so that she no longer tells her friends or teachers or Dad or mentor what is going on. The beauty of this book comes when Lydia, the sort of mentor or counselor type figure in the series, starts bringing God into the discussion with Ginger. Ginger heard a sermon years ago that placed God as a bully sending hard or hurtful things into our lives just to strengthen us. Believing that God wants to hurt her, she has rejected Him. Lydia guides Ginger to the truth and shows her how everything in the code comes straight from the Scripture itself. The author also places another character in the story whose faith, in small ways, encourages Ginger. The focus of this book really is on standing up for your right to be yourself. Ginger is actually a brilliant and beautiful young girl, but as she writes in her journal, that’s one of the things “nobody knows about me”. A wise teacher at school assigns her and another victim of bullying a project that allows them to express themselves and think through their real-life problems in an allegorical story they write. I highly recommend this book to all young girls.
Spiritual Content Recommendation Scale: 5/5
Reviewer: J:-)mi

Ephesians 3:14-19 – For this reason I kneel before the Father, from whom his whole family in heaven and on earth derives its name. I pray that out of his glorious riches he may strengthen you with power through his Spirit in your inner being, so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ, and to know this love that surpasses knowledge--that you may be filled to the measure of all the fullness of God.

Thank you to Nancy Rue for sending me a free review copy of this book in exchange for my honest opinion. It was wonderful!

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