In this candid account, Craig and Jen Ferguson share their personal story of the shame, anger, and hopelessness associated with Craig s porn addiction. It threatened to destroy their marriage until they discovered how drawing close to Christ could lead them out of the pit o... Read More
In this candid account, Craig and Jen Ferguson share their personal story of the shame, anger, and hopelessness associated with Craig s porn addiction. It threatened to destroy their marriage until they discovered how drawing close to Christ could lead them out of the pit of sinful habits, unhealthy responses, and personal despair toward true recovery. Marked by biblical and practical guidance for addressing the heart issues that lead to addiction, "Pure Eyes, Clean Heart" offers encouragement and hope to those who struggleor whose loved ones strugglewith the lure of pornography. Includes Scripture-based prayers, discussion questions for couples, and other helpful resources."
- Store Only: Yes
- Product type: Book
- Format: Softcover
- Release Date: Oct 1, 2014
- UPC: 9781627070560
- Volumes/Discs: 1
- Pages: 229
- Publish Date: Oct 1, 2014
- Language: English
- Audience Age Maximum: 0
- Audience Age Minimum: 0
- BISAC: "REL012110"
- ISBN: 1627070567
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- Every Married Couple Should Read This Book! by Vicki F on 1/21/2015
I’d like to share a personal story with you. I was the Director of Choral Ministries at a church here in my city for over 10 years. There was a married couple in my choir who became very good friends of ours. She was a wonderful acting coach, and we did huge, Broadway-style musicals, so her experience was invaluable. He had a wonderful voice and was a great actor. He also had a beautiful, gentle spirit that I adored.
They served as missionaries in the Philippines for many years; this was dear to my heart because I had taken a mission trip to the Philippines with the Tebows, (you’ve probably heard of Tim!) also family friends, and I fell in love with the people there.
My friends raised four wonderful sons (all adults now) and they were respected leaders in my music ministry. A few years back, he was asked to be the keynote speaker at a church anniversary celebration in the Philippines and I was asked to accompany them and provide the music. We traveled together so easily. For a few weeks we served in the Philippines and I became even closer to this wonderful couple.
Fast forward. She asked me to lunch. I was shocked when she shared with me that he was addicted to pornography and that she had decided that she could no longer be his wife. I was heartbroken for her. And for him. I stayed in contact with both of them; attending their sons’ weddings, etc. She continued to be a good friend to him, even though they were no longer married, and she eventually met another man whom she married. I sang at the wedding. Her ex-husband began to experience serious health problems and ended up living in a small room with very little. His illness progressed to the point where he eventually lost his battle and passed away, just a few days after his youngest son told him he and his wife were expecting their first child. I won’t say that he passed away with nothing – he had the love of his sons and no one turned their back on him. But he went from being healthy, married and having a home to ill, divorced, and almost homeless.
I am not going to “blame” all of his problems on his addiction to pornography, but everything started to go downhill for him when his wife left him, and that was a direct result of the pornography addiction. His problems occurred as a result of disobedience and very, very poor choices.
So why did I tell you that story? Because I wanted to share with you the reason that I chose to review the book ‘Pure Eyes, Clean Heart’ A Couple’s Journey to Freedom from Pornography by Jen and Craig Ferguson. I wanted to see how Satan could get his hands on such a godly man like my big, gentle friend, Dan; the very last person in the world who you would guess would have this problem.
Although this is not a problem that I confront in my marriage, if it could affect my friend Dan, it could affect anyone. This is a cautionary tale, and the Fergusons share their own story and how they overcame this insidious issue. There are some statistics that are eye-opening. In 1994, a survey showed 91% of men raised in Christian homes were exposed to pornography while growing up. Raised in Christian homes! In August, 2006, a survey reported 50% of all Christian men and 20% of all Christian women are addicted to pornography. That is staggering.
The book shares her viewpoint, and his viewpoint. It shares things that we tell ourselves that are patently untrue; blatant lies straight from the pit of hell.
It includes discussion questions that couples can talk about. The questions are meant to encourage sharing feelings and really help to uncover some hidden portions of your spouse’s character or beliefs. It talks about the pitfalls, how prayer can help, how studying pertinent scriptures can help and how to build a solid foundation. And one of the most important parts: how to restore trust after it’s seemingly gone.
And I love the prayers at the end of the book – not that you can’t say your own prayers, but for an issue as sensitive as this one, it may help to see how someone else prayed.
Whether this issue directly affects you or not, this book is enlightening. Read it if you need help, or if you simply want protection from an unseen and possible enemy. Don’t think that this can’t happen to you or touch your family.