Finding the Good in Grief: Rediscover Joy After A Life-Changing Loss is both a practical and inspirational guide that teaches us to learn, change and grow through their grief. After a disabling mental illness turned his son into a violent and unpredictable creature, author, ... Read More
Sharing lessons that he learned from his son's illness, Baggett shows how God can transform suffering and use it for our good. In five stages, he demonstrates how to:
- Trust God and rely on others
- Choose reality instead of illusion
- Resist the temptation to get stuck
- Recognize moments of grace
- Discover new meaning and purpose
Page Count: 160
- Product type: Book
- Format: Softcover
- Release Date: Apr 1, 2013
- UPC: 9780825443190
- Volumes/Discs: 1
- Pages: 157
- Publish Date: Apr 5, 2013
- Language: English
- Audience Age Maximum: 0
- Audience Age Minimum: 0
- BISAC: "REL012070"
- ISBN: 0825443199
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- Joy Comes in the Morning! by countryman4ever on 8/1/2013
Finding the Good in Grief is a potent resource on guiding readers through the different stages of grief and rediscovering your sense of purpose and joy. The different stages of grief are, “trust God and rely on others, choose reality instead of illusion, resist the temptation to get stuck, recognize moments of grace, and discover new meaning and purpose. Many times we didn’t see the sickness and death knocking on our loved ones doors until they were gone. Our cold hard fears came upon us when we least expected them to. At least some part of us gets stuck asking God why we had to lose someone that we loved dearly. Like many people struggling with grief, healing and still living your life can seem impossible after going through a difficult tragic loss, this book will reveal to you how to do just that.
Dr. John F. Baggett writes this book from personal experience and the terrible pain he had to endure through the hardships of life. His lost occurred when an un-expecting event changed his son, Mark’s life. Mark was always a loving teenager who had incredible dreams to make a difference in people’s lives. He truly cared about others and wanted to go into a profession that he could have an impact in their lives for good. But at the age of seventeen, everything dramatically changed. Mark began to act abnormally and was talking in his room loudly and ramblingly frequently. He also told John that his friend was using mental telepathy to give him a heart attack. He also started to punch holes in the walls and he broke things for no reason. Eventually, the doctors diagnosed Mark as having schizophrenia and in that moment his life was never the same again. John Baggett went through the stages of grief and the losing of his son that he knew for seventeen years. This book was written to help others going through grief.
The book contained many stories that John Baggett wrote in order to discuss the different stages of grief. Some of the stories included a loved one being diagnosed with cancer and they end up losing the fight, a child being diagnosed with mental retardation and the hopes and dreams for the future are gone in an instant, overspending and then losing a job and escaping the pain and hurt through alcohol and one night stands, a young boy seeing his parents get a divorce and questioning why God didn’t answer his prayers, the effects of drunk driving, a person committing suicide, a person getting rape, and many more heartbreaking stories.
One of my stories that stuck out to me was, the story about Nancy and how she used her lost for a new calling and purpose. Nancy and her husband, Carl put their young daughter to bed and was about to watch TV when someone rang the doorbell. Two men dressed in dark clothes pushed her backwards and she screamed and her husband came running and they pointed a gun at him. They tied him up and raped his wife and forced him to watch the brutal crime. They found some wine bottles and began to devour them. When Nancy tried to untie her husband, one of the men seized a knife and began to attack her. She felt unconscious and next, they stabbed her husband and killed him. Then they took valuables and jewelry and they discovered the three year old little girl and they took her. The neighbor spotted them taking the daughter and called the police and gave them their license plate number. They ultimately found out that the car belonged to a felon who had been already been convicted of rape and armed robbery. The man was left out of jail six week earlier because the prosecutor was found guilty of prosecutorial misconduct on a different case and the system freed eight people pending retrials. The police tracked down the two criminals and arrested them. They entered a plea deal with the second attacker and stated that he wouldn’t get the death penalty, if he told them where the daughter’s remains were located. The police uncovered the remains of the daughter and they both were sentenced. The first attacker was sentenced death by lethal injection. Nancy was outraged and bitter like anyone would understanding be. She went through the different stages of grief and finally found a way to help others going through suffering events. She watched the news and reached out to others who were victims of crimes and she founded support groups and internet chat groups to assist hurting victims. Like many people, this story disturbs me and upsets me of how evil spreads and gets it’s time in the spotlight and scars many people. This story deeply moved me and reinstated that when bad things happen, there is still some good that can come from it.
I would recommend this excellent book to everyone because no one gets through life without losing someone they love or grieving a terrible occurrence. I exceedingly recommend this book to anyone who is currently dealing with grief right now and they are stuck and don’t know how to move forward and how to continue living their life. This book will serve as a catalyst for readers to read to recover from a horrible lost. Like most people, I have experienced losing a loved one, for example, I have lost an aunt to cancer. I also lost a grandpa and I can still remember hearing the phone ring at 3:00 am and receiving the news that my grandpa dropped dead in the kitchen table from a heart attack. I remember rushing over there and they had him lying on the floor. It’s an image that you can’t ease from your memory. I wish that this book would have been released when I was going through the grieving process. I immensely loved the many diverse stories that John Baggett wrote about in order to portray how these different stages of grief presented themselves in people’s lives. I loved how John didn’t just focus all of his stories on just sickness and death. He pointed out that grief can occur through many different situations like a divorce, losing your job, death, and other losses. The book had a number of encouraging scriptures to assist readers in their grief. I liked how each chapter had multiple questions to lead readers into digging deeper in their feelings and emotions. If readers are persistent in learning about the different stages of grief, when they are having to endure grief, this book will inspire them and help them.
"I received this book free from the publisher from Kregel Publications book review bloggers program."
- NOT YOUR ORDINARY BOOK ON GRIEF! by Moonpie on 8/1/2013
When I chose to read this book to review, little did I know I would face the greatest loss and the most painful grief I have ever experienced. My wonderful precious husband died unexpectedly just a month or so after I received it. It is one thing to read a book thinking you will go through loss someday, but it is quite another to read when you are a facing raw grief head on.
Mr. Baggett knows the heartache of personal grief. He writes from his own heart wrenching experience of his intelligent, talented teenage son being drastically changed by schizophrenia.
I have been reading a lot of books on grief since my husband died and this one isn’t like the others. The style of writing allows the reader to apply it to their grief experience, be it the loss of a loved one, divorce, loss of health or finances and more. Instead of focusing on the pain and well-known stages of grief you hear so much about, the author gives you steps (I like to look at them as tools) to work through and overcome your grief.
Trust God and Rely on Others
Choose Reality Instead of Illusion
Resist Temptation to Get Stuck
Recognize Moments of Grace
Discover New Meaning and Purpose
Under each of these are emotions and experiences you will confront. He gives you scriptures and spiritual insights that allow you to see through the pain that can distort your thoughts and increase your agony.
The author does a wonderful job of illustrating these points with fictional stories of characters facing different types of bereavement. I liked the fact that although each one had a specific circumstance, the information could be easily applied to any loss.
At the end of each chapter are scriptures and questions to help you apply the truths to your life and situation. I appreciated the fact there were lots of scriptural references. God’s Word is our only answer to any problem. Grief was viewed from a spiritual stand point, not just a physical and emotional one. As a very new widow, I found this book helpful, encouraging, and comforting.
I received this book free from Kregel Publications. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own.
- Finding the Good In Grief by arts chili pepper on 7/26/2013
Grief comes in all shapes and sizes. The death of a loved one. A broken marriage. The loss of a baby. The loss of a job. A serious illness. Financial troubles. Even facing our own mortality. And we all face grief differently. There is no way to know when it will hit or even how. But there is one certain and one common denominator, we will all have to deal with grief eventually. When tragedy strikes it is a grave mistake to think we can bypass the grieving process it is a necessary and useful part of life. If handled well, a time of grief can be the catalyst for making a stronger instrument for the Lord.
John Baggett has put together a useful tool to explain the process of grief broken down into five stages. At each stage he explains the stage, gives practical ways to work through them, and he shares stories from people who have been there and rose victorious. He also explains the dangers that can sneak into our life and spiritual walk if we are not careful.
I have been through many different types of grief in my life and I have walked with many loved ones through their own journey of grieving. I think Mr. Baggett really has a good depiction of what the grieving process boils down to. This book would be excellent for just about anyone but especially for those who is grieving or anyone who is trying to minister to those who are grieving.