Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy, and the Longings of a Woman's HeartDannah Gresh, Juli Slattery
Christian women don't have to choose between being sexual and spiritual. They have legitimate longings that the Church has been afraid to talk about, and books like "Fifty Shades of Grey" exploit. Whether you are single or married, sexually dead or just looking to revive you... Read More
Christian women don't have to choose between being sexual and spiritual. They have legitimate longings that the Church has been afraid to talk about, and books like "Fifty Shades of Grey" exploit. Whether you are single or married, sexually dead or just looking to revive your sex life, "Pulling Back the Shades" will address your desire to be both sexual AND spiritual. With solid Biblical teaching and transparent stories, trusted authors Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery, offer an unflinching look at the most personal questions women ask. The book offers practical advice for women to address five core longings:
- to be cherished by a man
- to be protected by a strong man
- to rescue a man
- to be sexually alive
- to escape reality
God designed women with these longings and has a plan to satisfy them. It's time for women to identify their intimate longings and God-honoring ways to fulfill them.
- Product type: Book
- Format: Softcover
- Release Date: Mar 26, 2014
- UPC: 9780802410887
- Height: 0.45
- Width: 5.32
- Length: 7.45
- Volumes/Discs: 1
- Pages: 171
- Publish Date: Mar 1, 2014
- Language: English
- Audience Age Maximum: 0
- Audience Age Minimum: 0
- BISAC: "REL012110"
- ISBN: 080241088X
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- A Subject Too Long Avoided By The Church by Danielle on 2/3/2015
Sex is a wonderful, biblical act. It has been so distorted by the world, which we all know.
The fault though, is not entirely "the world's." The church has too long avoided honest, biblical conversations about sexual behavior. Pulling Back the Shades not only exposes the lies of erotica but it begins the conversation of biblical sexual behavior.
Pastors, Women's Ministry Leaders, Youth Leaders this book is a must read. We must start this conversation. I highly recommend Pulling Back the Shades to help open your eyes to what is going on (inside the church) and how to being a moment in the right direction.
- Calls Attention without Shaming by Gena on 11/8/2014
I'll be honest, when I first sat down to read this book, I expected something entirely different. I was asked to read the book as a review on my blog, and frankly... it was just better than I could have imagined.
First of all, I appreciate that it is an easy read and you could do finish it in a single sitting. Although, I wouldn't recommend it. I like that the book speaks to "every woman" and not a particular type. It recognizes that erotica can be found in the library of not just women, but Christian women.
Second, I appreciated that we got opinions on erotica from someone who read the 50 Shades books & someone who didn't. There are strong reasons for not reading it to begin with, but that doesn't mean we should have a blind eye to what is a growing problem amongst women in our community and our churches.
Third, and I think this is the most important, this book approaches the subject from a place of a lot of grace, mercy & understanding without shaming the reader. It brings to light the seriousness of it, shares some startling statistics, and leads us into some questions that compel us to really think about our stand on the subject of erotica.
I think this book would be a great read on your own, with your accountability partner, or within a women's study group. Whether you are young and single, or a seasoned wife... erotica can be a temptation that can slowly seep into and take over your life before you realize it.
- Best book ever! by Candice on 11/3/2014
This book found me. I know God's hand was in it. I'm one of the few who have never read Fifty Shades of Grey. In fact, I didn't even know that this book (Pulling Back the Shades) was referring to the Fifty Shades series. It's the best book I've ever read. I found support and assurance of the feelings I've had for a long time. I'm so grateful for this book!
- A Biblical View of What's Really Black, White, and Gray by Laura Langley on 4/11/2014
If you’ve read erotica, been tempted to read it, or know someone who has read it, you NEED to read Pulling Back the Shades: Erotica, Intimacy and the Longings of a Woman’s Heart. In the book, authors Dannah Gresh and Dr. Juli Slattery shine the light on how erotic books like Fifty Shades of Grey, also known as “mommy porn,” actually destroy relationships and marriages.
Straight away, Gresh and Slattery identify five unmet longings in women’s hearts and the characteristics of successful erotica, exposing how guidelines given to authors in the industry exploit what women secretly long for. Throughout the book, the authors use examples from Fifty Shades of Grey and the Bible to show how Satan has used erotica to draw women away from God’s design for sex and marriage. They say, “The fantasy of erotica inspires one thing—the longing for more. Instead of satisfying your longings, it will awaken, manipulate, and deepen them.” They go on to say that reading erotica, a form of pornography, affects the brain creating an addiction, and it also leads women to disillusionment, dissatisfaction, ungratefulness in reality, and the inability to experience authentic relationships.
But Gresh and Slattery don’t stop there.; they offer help for hope and healing from the Bible. They also include two very practical appendices. The first is a list of resources for online accountability as well as books and studies for sexual healing. Appendix 2 is perhaps, to me, the most practical and helpful part of the entire book. Titled “What Do I Do with My Struggle? Practical Ideas for Victory,” this appendix provides very practical and helpful steps for women to take toward experiencing sexual healing and recovery. They are simple and doable steps any woman can take to find victory in Christ.
Having not read the Fifty Shades of Grey series myself, I was shocked to read that Slattery found in the series such a blatant attack on Christianity. Slattery says, “They are very spiritual books with an aggressive spiritual agenda.” She cites countless references to Christianity, to Christian symbols, and to Christian song lyrics in the Fifty Shades series which basically spit in the face of the Bible and Jesus followers. Additionally, she notes at least 100 uses of the word “holy” (which means consecrated unto God and set apart) combined with less than holy terms. Slattery says, “I am absolutely convinced that Satan, through these books, intended to mock and desecrate things set apart to worship God.”
I applaud Gresh and Slattery for broaching a sensitive topic that has been ignored and overlooked in Christian circles for far too long. With both compassion and tact, they help women look biblically at what is truly black, white and gray. The authors help women realize that sexuality and spirituality were never meant to be separated and that God created sexuality for enjoyment within a biblical, covenant marriage.
Pulling Back the Shades is a relatively short book, it’s small in size, and can be easily read in one sitting. Yet, I highly recommend that readers take the time to read slowly, carefully, and prayerfully, and then take seriously the questions at the end of each chapter and in the group discussion guide at the end of the book.
This would be a great book for a group of women to read and discuss together in a small group situation. Additionally, I think it would be a great lead-in to another new book, Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love are You Making? by one of the authors, Dr. July Slattery and Linda Dillow. The small group Bible study about sex is designed to help women reclaim God’s design for sex and to revive their marriages.
DANNAH GRESH is a bestselling author and co-founder of Pure Freedom. Dannah's books include And the Bride Wore White , What Are You Waiting For: The One Thing No One Ever Tells You About Sex, and Lies Young Women Believe (co-authored with Nancy Leigh DeMoss), in addition to the Secret Keeper series. She is also a frequent guest for national radio, TV and print mediums. Dannah lives in State College, Pennsylvania, with her husband, Bob, and their three children.
DR. JULI SLATTERY is a widely known clinical psychologist, author, speaker, and broadcast media professional. Her commitment to biblical principles, relatable style, and quick wit have made her a highly sought after speaker to women's groups. Juli's books include Finding the Hero in Your Husband, No More Headaches, and Guilt Free Motherhood. She and her husband Mark have been married for 18 years and have three children.
*Note: I received a copy of the book from Moody Publishers for this review. However, the opinions expressed in the review are my own.
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