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The Cure for the "Perfect" Life: 12 Ways to Stop Trying Harder and Start Living Braver

Kathi Lipp, Cheri Gregory
The Cure for the "Perfect" Life: 12 Ways to Stop Trying Harder and Start Living Braver
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Do you know a woman who works her heart out but never gets anything "just right"? Who feels like she falls short of being the Christian wife, mother, daughter, and friend she longs to be? Sound like anyone you know? Perhaps even the girl in the mirror? If so, Cheri Gregory a... Read More


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Do you know a woman who works her heart out but never gets anything "just right"? Who feels like she falls short of being the Christian wife, mother, daughter, and friend she longs to be?
Sound like anyone you know? Perhaps even the girl in the mirror? If so, Cheri Gregory and Kathi Lipp have good news for you.
You're not a bad person. You've simply been obeying some really bad rules for far too long, rules that promised paradise but misled you into perfectionism, people-pleasing, and procrastination prison. But you don't have to stay stuck in discouragement and resentment. Escape is possible. Rescue is waiting.
This sassy self-help guide offers been-there-felt-that, girlfriend-to-girlfriend empathy and experience that will help you

  • tell the difference between reasonable rules and bad rules
  • identify the bad rules you need to break
  • discover biblical wisdom to overcome the bad rules in your life

As you stop trying to measure up so that others will be impressed, you'll experience what it means to "let the peace of Christ rule in your heart."

Additional Information

  • Product type: Book
  • Format: Softcover
  • Release Date: Jul 1, 2014
  • UPC: 9780736957007
  • Height: 0
  • Width: 0
  • Length: 0
  • Volumes/Discs: 1
  • Pages: 253
  • Publish Date: Aug 1, 2014
  • Language: English
  • Audience Age Maximum: 0
  • Audience Age Minimum: 0
  • BISAC: "REL012130"
  • ISBN: 0736957006

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Be You, Bravely by Kelly on 1/19/15

Great book! Helped understand myself better and people who are not like me ;) "it's not that we shouldn't strive for excellence, but we need to understand the difference between pursuing excellence and pursuing perfection." This book helped me see the difference. There are even practical steps at the end of each chapter to help you to start living braver.

Be Yourself, Not Who You Think Others Want You To Be. by Kris D on 8/12/14

I'm an imperfect wife and mom that has felt all alone. This book helped me learn more about who I am and gave me some great insight on how I can create a better me. I don't need to try so hard to be someone I'm not and it's okay to say no. When I picked up this book I wasn't sure I would make it all of the way through...but I did. This book won't cure anything but it will give you an amazing view of your life through taking several short quizzes. You will learn more about yourself and be on your way to approaching situations differently. You can fight off people-pleasing, perfectionism, performancism, and procrastination by taking it one step at a time. We can do all things through Him who gives us strength. Pick up one for yourself and find a bravery buddy. You'll be glad you did.

Fight the bullies, live your life! by SmilingSara on 8/10/14

This book is FANTASTIC! It's a great help and reminder that we are all in the same boat. None of us are perfect, even if we try to make it appear that way. We all fight the same battles (bullies) within ourselves. Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory do a great job of identifying these bullies and giving us the tools and know-how to fight them off.

I highly recommend that every woman, everywhere read this book!

Great resource! by Danica on 8/5/14

This is a great resource for anyone trying to get off the merry-go-round of perfectionism. Lots of great practical tips and applications, I'd recommend it to any woman struggling with perfectionism. I think it would also make a great book study for a women's group.

Must read and must share by Shonna on 8/1/14

This book is such an easy read. I love the writing style which combines succinct descriptions, quotes, quizzes, journaling and stories which drive the points home. Prepare to be convicted without condemnation and inspired without becoming overwhelmed. It's a must read and a must share. Be prepared to use a highlighter and a pencil as your first #braverliving #tinyactofrebellion. Then come join the community of Bravery Buddies on Facebook.

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Why you shouldn't Procrastinate in buying this book... by txstraub on 8/1/14

I have really enjoyed this book. It speaks to my heart and where I am at...daily.  I find that I'm not alone in how I feel and other women feel the same way. I hope you will pick up this book for you AND a friend to read together because our lives were not meant to be lived alone, so bring a friend along for the ride of learning out the "Bullies" that seem to overtake everyone at one time or another and how to fight back!  Be 40% BRAVE to pick up a copy and a friend to help you finish the reading of it. You won't regret it!

I have heard Kathi speak at events and she is wonderful and I have really come to enjoy Cheri and her stories too.

Be you, bravely! by LauriSmit on 8/1/14

The authenticity and transparency of Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory is refreshing. Sharing their own struggles, they are able to help other women to overcome the lying bullies of the perfect life. This book is great for Christians and non-Christians alike who are ready to rebel against the belief that we need to have it all together. Get ready to dig deep and be you, bravely. Buy the book. Do a book study with girlfriends. This NEEDS to be read!

Stop Trying Harder and Start Living Abundantly by Tracy on 8/1/14

A perusal of the chapter titles in The Cure for the “Perfect” Life will touch the heart of every woman. I haven’t met a woman yet who hasn’t or isn’t still struggling with Try-Harder-Living (THL) and its four bullies. If you relate at all to dealing with perfectionism, people-pleasing, performancism, and/or procrastination, then this book has something to say to you. Cheri and Kathi go over why THL only serves to make us more miserable, not more efficient, and leaves us working like crazy to survive, instead of thriving and living in abundance. Then they proceed to offer step-by-step tools and real life examples of how to battle (with great strength) against these emotionally deadly habits. Do you want to stop treading water, barely keeping your head up? Wouldn’t you rather “learn to rest in God’s lavish unconditional love”? I know I do. And this book offers a big help on this journey. I highly recommend it without hesitation. I also recommend when you get the book you grab a bravery buddy to work with as you go! Quotes to wet your appetite: “Stop waiting until you’re fearless – you never will be – but do as much as you can with what you have. That’s brave living.” “God led me to stop sacrificing my relationships on the alter of my rightness.” “…love wins over fear any day.”

Bullies Be Gone! by sincerelytanja on 8/1/14

The Cure For The “Perfect Life” written by Kathi Lipp & Cheri Gregory will take you through a journey of self-evaluation and change. On this journey you will meet four bullies named, Perfectionism, People-Pleasing, Performancism and Procrastination. After gaining a clear picture so that you can quickly identify these you will be given practical ways to trade in Try-Harder Living for Braver Living! This book would be a great Bible Study using chapter by chapter. This book is challenging, encouraging and sometimes downright hysterical as you see both authors share from personal experience how they came face to face with their bullies.

Living a Braver Life by JKP on 7/31/14

How often does it happen that we try to be the Somebody needed to do some task, or volunteer for some project or position, and we give and give and give until we lose who we are to what others need, or what we think they need? That’s the trap of Try-Harder Living, and there is a better way. As a part of a woman’s study group (which will allow for the development of Bravery Buddies), or individual study, The Cure for the “Perfect” Life can help with Try-Harder Living syndrome, and assist with the turn around to Braver Living.

With humor, personal anecdotes that let you know “I’m not the only one!”, and an obvious desire to get their message across, the authors provide a plan to move from Try-Harder Living into Braver Living-living in a way that will allow you to become more effective, less stressed, and better able to be what God wants you to be, rather than what you think you need to be or what you think others need you to be.

A must read for anyone feeling the pressure of trying to be everything to everyone.

Be brave, be YOU! by Jennifer on 7/28/14

This book is an excellent resource if you're trying to break the madness that is trying to get life "perfect." It had me saying over and over "Oh my gosh, I thought I was the only one!" It's honest, it's funny, and totally relatable. There are several self-assessment tests built right into the text, making this the "perfect" workbook to help you stop beating yourself up for not being "perfect" and start being YOU!

Start Living Braver! by Mary on 7/27/14

I used to believe I was all alone. No one could ever understand my struggles with OCD, OCPD, anxiety, fear, or depression. Sometimes they overwhelmed me to the point of complete melt down and isolation. No one could ever understand. Sometimes even I didn't understand.

But here is the thing... I'm not alone. And others DO understand--thank you Kathi and Cheri for opening my eyes! Amen and Praise the Lord!

In their book, The Cure for the "Perfect" Life, authors Kathi Lipp and Cheri Gregory, do a fabulous job of conveying some deep truths about the bullies and struggles of People-Pleasing, Perfectionism, Performancism, and Procrastination.

From the very beginning, Kathi and Cheri help readers understand that "Perfectionism isn't Christian. It's just crazy." From these words come challenges, questions, discussions, and life stories from other sisters struggling to rebel against "perfect" living. These lives shared, honest and real, give hope to each reader who also battles the bullies of Try-Harder Living.

For the expressive, this book is full of creative ways to fight the bullies, lots of humor, and opportunities for each reader to express their own personality through quizzes, check-lists, questions, and fun surveys. However, the expressive will be challenged to rebel against the natural tendency of people-pleasing and rather share openly, honestly, and vulnerably.

For the analytic, this book challenges readers in a deep and thoughtful way, with serious questions, measures and quizzes, and quotes, stories, or scriptures that are poetic and provoking. However, the analytical individual will also find the reassurance needed to do the right things and preserve relationships, rather than doing all things right and alienating those they love.

For the driven, this book provides the reader with a chance to achieve, successfully completing well developed sections, fill in the blanks, quizzes and lists. However, the driven and confident individual will also realize they are not alone and have positive value above and beyond their performancism and "doing."

For the amiable, this book provides an easy and relaxed read, perfect for a peaceful afternoon curled up with a cup of coffee, even if the dishes and laundry are piled high. However, the amiable will be unable to stay put, challenged by the authors to take responsibility, stop compromising, and stop procrastinating.

While I am convinced sometimes that this book was written just for me, I know that this jewel must be shared with the world. Kudos to Kathi and Cheri on a fabulous read. So... to all of you readers with "perfect" lives...Buy it. Read it. Mark it up with your favorite pink highlighter. And start living braver!

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