On the third day a wedding took place at Cana in Galilee. Jesus’ mother was there, and Jesus and his disciples had also been invited to the wedding. John 2:1-2
A wedding is a celebration of two people committed to Christ and committed to each other. This is cause for raucous laughter and tearful gratitude. The solemn vows of the bride and groom are accented by their smiles and kisses. The parents celebrate God’s goodness in all of its facets. It’s good to see your child embrace a spouse who will cherish and respect your “baby.” It’s good to see your child happy and content. And it’s good to see your child make wise choices and dance with joy. It is good to see your child obedient to his or her heavenly Father. Weddings where Jesus is invited are the best!
A wedding is a preamble to the constitution of marriage. It is a declaration of independence from self-interests. It is interdependence on each other and dependence on God. A wedding is costly, but not nearly as expensive as the marriage. A wedding mirrors a marriage’s need for mentors, prayer support, and planning. A wedding done well is a template for marriage. You keep the fires of romance burning brightly. You plan together and communicate constantly. You spend budgeted money. You involve your family in ways that are appropriate and honoring. You keep God as the centerpiece of your life. A wedding is not a fleeting moment, but rather a memory to be relived over and over again. A wedding is a reminder of God’s beautiful work of grace in a world full of hurt. It reinvigorates stale marriages. It staves off the pending demise of others. It affirms those who, by God’s grace, have grown deeper and deeper in love since their own special day.
Invite Jesus to your wedding. He is the ultimate wedding planner. He is interested in every detail of your public expression of faith in Him. Indeed, your public display of faith begins with your private devotion. Once you have developed a personal love relationship with Jesus, you can humbly exalt Him before friends, family, and the world. Private dedication precedes public declaration. An engaged couple who lacks their individual engagement of faith, is not ready for a wedding. A wedding requires much more than starry-eyed looks of love. Its prerequisite is a deep and abiding faith in God. Otherwise, the wedding becomes a big, expensive party lacking the teeth of commitment and follow through.
A wedding without Jesus is like an orchestra without a conductor. There is a ton of potential represented by a lot of well-meaning individuals, but there is no defined direction. There is no overall harmony of the musical instruments of husband, wife, family, friends, and faith. Jesus integrates the lives of all these well-meaning players into a beautiful concert called marriage. The wedding is but a prelude of the marriage concert, but what a beautiful beginning it births. Jesus is a gracious guest always looking for ways to intercede on your behalf—as the new couple—and on the behalf of your guests. His role model of servant-hood will mark your marriage for a lifetime. Your faith in Christ is a marriage analogy, for He is the groom and you are the bride. Your wedding is a picture of the joy of your salvation. Your marriage is a lifelong consecration of that commitment. Keep inviting Jesus, the initiator of your wedding and the sustainer of your marriage.
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May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth (Proverbs 5:18).
There is something sacred and celebratory about another year of marriage. It is sacred because a covenant to God has been fulfilled. And it is celebratory because a man and woman have grown closer to Christ and to each other. This marriage milestone is meant to mean something. It is not just another day that comes and goes without recognition.
Wise are the husband and wife who make much over their wedding anniversary. It is a testimony to their commitment to Christ and His commitment to them. In a day when some men trade in their wives like a used car, and some women walk away from their husbands and children like a nuisance to her freedom, much needs to be made about marriages that achieve longevity. “Until death do us part” is not a trite saying but a bold declaration of lifelong dedication. So be proud you have persevered and celebrate!
Plan ahead, spend some money, and invest in a long weekend away from home. Make sure you do not over save for retirement and miss enjoying your marriage adventure now. The way to enjoy your spouse as your best friend in the future is to enjoy your spouse as your best friend now. “Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a longing fulfilled is a tree of life” (Proverbs 13:12). Your wedding anniversary is a big deal; so make it a big deal.
Husbands, lead the way by talking with your wife about the best way to celebrate this year’s anniversary. Perhaps you prearrange your favorite babysitter and work some extra hours so your wife is secure with the children’s caregiver and at peace with the extra expenditures. If it is important, you will make it a priority that might even require a project plan. Give her a day at the spa in preparation for the second best celebration of the year.
The best celebration of the year is your union with Christ. Your relationship with Jesus is meant to be a mirror of your marriage. Both are by grace through faith. They both require focused attention and going deeper with each another; so hilariously celebrate your marriage anniversary. Enjoy the blessings of being together over time. It is something to be proud of, because God says marriage is meant to last a lifetime.
“Has not the Lord made them one? In flesh and spirit they are his. And why one? Because he was seeking godly offspring. So guard yourself in your spirit, and do not break faith with the wife of your youth” (Malachi 2:15).
Prayer: How can I honor God and my spouse and have fun on our wedding anniversary?
Related Readings: Song of Songs 2:1–17; Romans 7:2; 1 Corinthians 7:2–3; Hebrews 13:4
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