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  • The Moment that Saved My Marriage

    Lysa TerKeurst APRIL 9, 2015

    The Moment that Saved My Marriage LYSA TERKEURST

    "Let your gentleness be evident to all." Philippians 4:5a (NIV)

    We all have them. Weak places. Places inside us that make us wonder if we’ll ever get it together like the together people. Places that make us feel "less than" the next girl.

    One of those weak places for me has always been my tendency to let my emotions boss me around, especially in conflict.

    My deepest desire is to let my "gentleness be evident to all" like our key verse says … but the truth is my reactions haven’t always reflected my desire for gentleness. I really think I was born with firecrackers in my blood.

    But when my relationships began to suffer due to my emotionally driven tirades, I found myself crying out to the Lord for help. He prompted my heart to pause and let the Holy Spirit intervene on my behalf when my emotions rallied to be right.

    Honestly, I wasn’t totally convinced that this whole "giving it over to God" thing really worked. Until one day I saw the beginnings of my imperfect progress.

    A few years ago, my husband Art and I hit a rough place financially. Some investments we’d made went bad and we lost nearly our entire life savings. I was knee deep in caring for three small children at the time and hadn’t a clue that financial danger was looming on the horizon.

    That is, until Art came home and the look on his face spoke of utter defeat. How could we have lost so much? He’d been wise with our finances. He’d done his research. He was a faithful saver. I stood stunned in our foyer that day, as Art told me the news.

    There were many different directions my reaction could have gone in the minutes that followed. I was upset. When Art first talked of making these particular investments, I shared with him that I didn’t have a good feeling about it. But, in the end, I let him make the final decision.

    So many times in my marriage, I’ve chosen the wrong words — words that were tainted with bitterness, words that were emotionally toxic. But I’m so thankful the Lord had been working on preparing my heart for this moment, and instead of reacting immediately with what would have been a disastrous response, I paused. I allowed the Holy Spirit a few seconds to interrupt my natural flesh feelings.

    Then, because of God’s Spirit working in me, I was able to wrap my arms around my husband and speak life-giving words into his weary heart: "I love you, Art. I loved you yesterday when we had everything. I love you today when we have nothing. I love you for who you are, not what you have."

    Now please understand … I was only able to have this response by God’s grace working in me. I still did quite a bit of wrestling to let my feelings catch up to the gentle words I felt led to speak out loud.

    But a few years later, I saw incredible fruit from this one good reaction. Art and I were interviewed on a radio program. On the show Art was asked, "I know you and Lysa had a rough start to your marriage. But what happened that made you know you’d stick by her forever, no matter what?"

    Without hesitation, Art recounted my reaction over the lost investments.

    I cried. I couldn’t help but think this could have been the moment that saved my marriage.

    Had I been left to my own flesh reaction that day, it could have set us on the road to marital disaster. But, because of God’s response being stored up in me, this situation wound up bringing us closer together than we’d ever been.

    And I realized how crucial it is to always be aware of God’s preparation in our lives.

    One way to be more discerning of this is to commit to exchange whispers with God before shouts with the world every day. Before you check your cell phone or scroll through social media, spend time with Him. Listen for Him. And then go look for rich evidence of Him at work in your life.

    Because God stands in our yesterday, today and tomorrow, He sees all. And He knows the perfect way to prepare our hearts for every situation.

    When we embrace His preparations, even a girl with firecrackers in her blood like me can have reactions that honor God and breathe life into relationships.

    Dear Lord, I’m choosing to let You take control of my reactions. Help me to always exchange whispers with You before shouts with the world. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY: Proverbs 29:11, "A fool vents all his feelings, But a wise man holds them back." (NKJV)

    RELATED RESOURCES: Learn more about responding to situations out of your control without acting out-of-control with Lysa TerKeurst’s book, Unglued. Purchase your copy here.

    Know some friends who need help with their reactions too? Invite them to join your Unglued Bible study and make imperfect progress together! Get started here.

    REFLECT AND RESPOND: What situation have you been in recently where you could have paused to let the Holy Spirit work on your behalf?

    If you didn’t have a good reaction, don’t give up! The beauty of imperfect progress isn’t having it all together right away. It’s allowing the Lord to take you by the hand and lead you through slow steps of progress wrapped in grace.

    © 2015 by Lysa TerKeurst. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries 630 Team Rd., Suite 100 Matthews, NC 28105 www.Proverbs31.org

  • Interview with author Irene Hannon

    Here at Family Christian we were fortunate enough to score an interview with Irene Hannon and discuss her newest book, Buried Secrets.


     Family Christian: We are excited about your new book Buried Secrets.  This book has quite a bit of medical content.  Our readers would like to know who you bounced your medical ideas off of?

    I spend HUGE amounts of time on the Net researching my suspense books. That’s how I found most of the medical information in this book. However, I always vet technical subject matter with real-life experts. Through the years I’ve developed a great list of medical sources who provide answers that elude me on online. For this book, I also consulted a forensic anthropologist and a botanist, as well as law-enforcement sources.

    Family Christian:  This book is the first in a series.  Do you know how many will be in this series?

    There will be three books in the Men of Valor series. Each of the brothers will have his own story. Lance will be up next in Thin Ice, which will be out in January. Lance is the middle brother, and during his first week on the job with the FBI after leaving Delta Force, a bizarre case hits his desk. Fortunately, he’s ably assisted by FBI veteran Mark Sanders (the hero of An Eye for an Eye in my Heroes of Quantico series). So those readers who’ve been following me for a while will see a familiar face!

    Family Christian: Buried Secrets is very intense.  Was it hard for you to step out of the writing mode, and go back to normal life, after your book was published?

    Actually, I finished the book long before it was released (manuscripts are due at the publisher about a year before publication). But yes, when I finish an intense suspense book it can be difficult to decompress. Ideally, I like to work on one of my contemporary romances next. Those are emotionally intense, but not as adrenaline laced. Depending on my publication schedule, however, I sometimes have to plunge right back into suspense. One thing I should point out—while the suspense books can be very intense, as you noted, there are definitely touches of humor. Often it springs from the relationship between the characters that tie the series together—in this case, the three brothers, all of whom have special forces backgrounds. They’re very close…but also very competitive. I had a lot of fun writing their dialogue.

    Family Christian:  What is the heart and soul behind this new series?  What do you hope readers take away?

    Each of the stories, of course, is different, and each sends different message. But the thread running through all of the books is the importance of strong family bonds. The McGregor men might be super competitive and engage in lots of good-natured teasing, but when the heat is on or one of them is in trouble, they’re one hundred percent there for each other. More broadly, I tried to infuse these books with hope, which is a key component of my stories. I want to assure readers that no matter how bad things get, there’s always the possibility of a happy ending. And I also try to give them a better appreciation for the tremendous power of love…in all its form…to transform lives.

  • It's Time to Tell Someone

    T. Suzanne Eller APRIL 8, 2015

    It's Time to Tell Someone SUZIE ELLER

    "I planted the seed in your hearts, and Apollos watered it, but it was God who made it grow. It’s not important who does the planting, or who does the watering. What’s important is that God makes the seed grow." 1 Corinthians 3:6-7 (NLT)

    They showed up at my door when I was 14.

    Because they went to my school, my mom let them in. They stumbled into my room, standing awkwardly with their youth pastor behind them. One invited me to come to church. Another teen shuffled from foot to foot and asked if she could tell me about Jesus.

    I didn’t want to hear it. I was angry at God, if there even was one.

    I didn’t grow up in church, so I didn’t know a lot about the Bible. All I knew is that life was hard, and I didn’t want anyone to fix me.

    Thank you very much, now here’s the door.

    I can only imagine the scene afterwards. A bunch of teenagers clustered on the sidewalk outside our home on Latimer Street, wondering what in the world just happened.

    I’m sorry. I really am.

    Wherever you are, I want to thank you for trying. I don’t know why you picked me, but I love the fact that you wanted to tell me about Jesus.

    That day you didn’t find fertile soil, but a small seed was planted. Jesus eventually rooted His love in my heart and changed not only me, but also generations after me. I wish you knew that the angry girl in the bedroom became a woman of faith who loves nothing more than telling others about Jesus.

    In today’s passage, Paul and Apollos had faithfully planted seeds of teaching in a new church body. We see the newness of the church as members debate about who is the most important, Paul or Apollos.

    Paul diverted the attention away from himself to remind them of a simple truth: Telling others about Jesus is not about one person or another. It’s not about recognition. It’s not even about success or failure.

    It’s about faithfully planting seeds, watering them and allowing God to grow them.

    If someone were to look at those teens standing in my room, they might think that their words had little effect. One day in Heaven I plan to thank them. For every person, including them, who bravely shared the truth with me planted a seed of faith in my heart.

    Like Apollos and Paul, one planted. Another watered.

    And then, at just the right time, a seed sprouted and broke the crusty soil of my angry heart.

    Why am I telling you this?

    Maybe you’ve sensed for a long time that you’re to talk to someone about Jesus. You’ve hesitated because you don’t know how or you don’t want to fail. Perhaps you even experienced someone like I once was, and it made you think twice about trying again.

    But I want you to know something.

    When you move beyond your fears to tell someone that Jesus loves them, it may be exactly what they need to hear that day even if they don’t know it yet.

    I want a front seat one day in Heaven when those teens discover that their bravery wasn’t in vain. I want to hug their necks and thank them. In fact, there will be a lot of seed sowers I want to thank, because all of them together made a difference.

    They sowed. Some watered. God grew me.

    If God is leading you to tell someone about Jesus, don’t miss that moment. There might be someone in your path — a woman, a girl, a friend, a loved one — who doesn’t know Jesus loves them and His love changes you forever.

    Lord, thank You for allowing me to plant a seed, or water a seed or perhaps to even watch a seed come to fruition in the life of another. Lead me. Guide me. Show me what to say and when to say it. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY: John 17:20, "I am praying not only for these disciples but also for all who will ever believe in me through their message." (NLT)

    RELATED RESOURCES: Is God calling you to plant seeds of faith with your words? Join us this summer when Proverbs 31 Ministries hosts She Speaks, our annual conference for writers and speakers, July 23-25, 2015 in Charlotte, N.C. It’s a unique combination of spiritual inspiration and practical application, and we’ll save a seat for you!

    What if the next big step God wants you to take is actually small? Wherever God has called you, you can take the first step. Registration for the P31 Online Bible Study of What Happens When Women Walk in Faith by Lysa TerKeurst is open, and the study kicks off next Monday, April 13.

    Join Suzie Eller on her blog today to share your story and for a giveaway.

    REFLECT AND RESPOND: Sharing about Jesus doesn’t have to be formal or scripted. Just share your story.

    Consider the following as conversation starters:

    • Tell about the day you became a believer.
    • Tell how that changed you.
    • Share ways you have found strength or joy in your relationship with Christ (perhaps even in a similar struggle).

    © 2015 by Suzie Eller. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries 630 Team Rd., Suite 100 Matthews, NC 28105 www.Proverbs31.org

  • Stuck in the Muck

    Rachel Randolph APRIL 7, 2015

    Stuck in the Muck Rachel Randolph

    "He lifted me out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire; he set my feet on a rock and gave me a firm place to stand." Psalm 40:2 (NIV)

    After several cold rainy days in October, the clouds parted and the sun came out. Tired of being cooped up, we seized the moment and met up with a few friends at a small petting zoo. The sunny morning was exactly what my son Jackson and I needed.

    When his naptime approached, we were having such a good time that I decided to linger a little longer. Then the rain reappeared and poured on our playdate.

    I said my goodbyes and marched across the now freshly soggy farm to where Jackson was playing. "It’s time to go, buddy," I said, reaching out for his hand.

    "I don’t waaaaaant to goooooo!" he whined, walking backwards out of my reach.

    "I know," I empathized. "It’s hard to leave fun places."

    "Nooooooo! I STAYYY!" my now overly tired toddler yelled, turning to run from me. I quickly scooped him up and carried him across the petting zoo as he screamed and kicked his muddy shoes all over me.

    "Stand right there," I firmly ordered, setting him next to the car and reaching inside for the baby wipes. When I turned around to clean him off, he was running like an escaped convict through the parking lot.

    My sharp-eyed, fast-footed 2-year-old was running toward a back entrance to the zoo. In hot pursuit, I followed. But by the time I made it through the gate, he’d positioned himself on the opposite side of an empty, muddy horse pen.

    Across the rusty red bars, he was staring me down with the iron will of a … well, of a defiant, exhausted toddler.

    I darted to the right to grab him. He matched my steps. I slowly paced to the left. Across the pen, keeping steady eye contact with me, and like a cowboy ready for a draw, he paced with me. After a few rounds of this, I realized: checkmate. He had me. I could not get to him. Unless …

    I could make him fall.

    I walked to the left, and he followed my lead straight into a muddy patch. His pace slowed as his boots sunk down into the muck. I quickly moved to the right. He did too, but his boots didn’t follow, and he fell right into my muddy trap. His strong-willed defiance quickly turned to a whimpering plea for his mommy.

    I wonder how often God feels like this with us. He simply wants to get us on the road to a safe place for nourishment and rest, while we jet off in our own direction, sure of something better.

    Does He, in His love, let us fall into a muddy puddle so we can feel the discomfort of life without Him?

    Isn’t it true that when we find ourselves stuck in the muck of life, we long more deeply for God’s loving arms to come and take our hands and lead us out? We cry out, "Daddy, I need You. Please pull me out of this mess!"

    I imagine He gives the same knowing smile I did when my son, laying face up in the mud, finally cried out for me. He kneels down and as we see in Psalm 40:2, lifts us out of the slimy pit, out of the mud and mire — our muddy boots dangling from our safe perch in His arms — and whispers, "I’m here love, been here all along. I’ve just been waiting for you to ask. Now let’s get you cleaned up." Then He sets us on solid ground, giving us a firm place to stand.

    Heavenly Father, I pray that I would trust and obey Your lead in the good times and in the times when I feel like I’m sinking into the mud and mire of life. I truly believe God, that Your way is better, Your way leads to a fuller, deeper, more nourishing life. Help me to stop running from You and instead run toward Your loving embrace. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY: Psalm 25:4-5, "Show me your ways, LORD, teach me your paths. Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long." (NIV)

    RELATED RESOURCES: Feeling drained, discontent, or discouraged? Join a couple of understanding, entertaining companions on the journey from overwhelmed to nourished in Becky Johnson and Rachel Randolph’s latest book, Nourished: A Search for Health, Happiness, and a Full Night’s Sleep.

    Read more from Rachel and Becky on their blogs The Nourished Mama and Laugh Cry Cook.

    REFLECT AND RESPOND: If you’re wondering where God is in your muddy mess, ask yourself if you’ve stopped running in your own direction yet and then cry out for God to show you His way.

    © 2015 by Rachel Randolph. All rights reserved.

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    Proverbs 31 Ministries 630 Team Rd., Suite 100 Matthews, NC 28105 www.Proverbs31.org

  • When You're Stuck in the Middle

    Alicia Bruxvoort APRIL 6, 2015

    When You're Stuck in the Middle ALICIA BRUXVOORT

    "Then Jesus became explicit, ‘Lazarus died. And I am glad for your sakes that I wasn’t there. You’re about to be given new grounds for believing. Now let’s go to him.’" John 11:14-15 (MSG)

    The poor teacher couldn’t figure out what had gone wrong. One minute, my daughter’s face had been decorated with her signature smile; the next, her cheeks were streaked with silent tears.

    My third-born is sensitive. As a baby, she cried around the clock. As a preschooler, she cried when her big brother pulled her ponytail.

    And in first grade, she cried in Sunday school when she heard the tale of Lazarus bursting forth from the tomb.

    Befuddled, the teacher pulled me aside after church that day and apologized for "whatever upset Hannah during story time." I’d assured her we knew about our little girl’s tender heart.

    However, later I asked Hannah about the unexplained tears. Like her teacher, I had no idea what might have prompted her sadness. After all, the resurrection recorded in the eleventh chapter of John seems more like a celebration-sparker than a tear-jerker.

    "I wasn’t planning to cry, Mommy," Hannah explained. "But that story just made me feel so sad."

    I squatted low to look my daughter in the eye. "Honey, the story of Lazarus is one of Jesus’ greatest miracles."

    "I know," Hannah conceded. "I just felt so bad for those sisters. I kept thinking about how I’d feel if Jesus had let me down like that."

    "But, Hannah" I said, "You already know the ending to the story. Jesus shows up and makes everything right. Those sisters get their brother back, and they all have a graveside party!"

    My girl exhaled an exasperated sigh, whispering, "Even if you know the ending, the middle can still hurt."

    My stomach lurched at the huge truth that hung between us, and suddenly, I understood the tears.

    My little girl had gotten stuck in "the middle."

    She’d stood at the edge of the tomb where a beloved brother lay lifeless, crying right alongside those sisters.

    I’ve been there. And if you’ve been traveling this world’s broken road for a while, you probably have, too.

    The middle is where we call on God and wonder if He hears our cries.

    The middle is where doubts rage loud, and our Savior grows quiet.

    The middle is where life doesn’t make sense, faith seems foolish and hope seems lost.

    When sickness strikes, when a friend betrays, when a spouse disappoints or a child rebels, we can find ourselves hoping for a better ending to our story.

    Maybe you’re there now, feet planted shakily at the edge of the tomb where your hopes and dreams are buried. If you are, I’m sorry.

    But listen to what Jesus told the disciples before raising Lazarus from the dead: "You’re about to be given new grounds for believing" (John 11:15).

    You see, the middle isn’t just a place of pain. It’s a place of possibility. That middle ground is fertile soil for flourishing faith.

    The middle is where we decide what we believe about Jesus — regardless of our circumstances. Before Jesus performed a miracle, Martha made her decision: "I have always believed you are the Messiah, the Son of God, the one who has come into the world from God" (John 11:27b, NLT).

    And Jesus replied with a promise we can claim for ourselves: "Didn’t I tell you that if you believed, you would see the glory of God?" (John 11:40b, MSG)

    Do you see it now? We don’t survive the middle by rewriting the story; we survive it by anchoring our hope to the One who has already scripted the perfect ending.

    There will come a day when no one will be stuck in the middle, with no more tears and no more pain (Revelation 21:3-5).

    So, plant your feet firmly on the promises of Christ, dear friend. Because life on this side of Heaven is just the scene before the miracle. And if we believe in Jesus, we already know there’s a happy ending.

    Dear Jesus, I’m stuck in the middle and it hurts. But I believe You are the resurrection and the life. Help me choose faith instead of fear. Renew my hope in Your glorious ending. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY: Revelation 21:6a, "It is done! I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end." (The Voice)

    1 Corinthians 1:7b-8, "All God’s gifts are right in front of you as you wait expectantly for our Master Jesus to arrive on the scene for the Finale. And not only that, but God himself is right alongside to keep you steady and on track until things are all wrapped up by Jesus." (MSG)

    RELATED RESOURCES: Sometimes our dreams feel like they’re dying, but God is at work preparing us for the next step. If you can relate, join our next P31 Online Bible Study, What Happens When Women Walk in Faith by Lysa TerKeurst. Registration is open and the study begins next Monday, April 13.

    Stop by Alicia Bruxvoort’s blog today for more encouragement and for a free printable that will help turn your middle ground into new ground for believing.

    REFLECT AND RESPOND: Consider what you believe about Jesus. Make a list of what you know to be true of Him.

    Reach out to someone who is stuck in the middle. Send an encouraging note or text or make time to offer a listening ear.

    © 2015 by Alicia Bruxvoort. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries 630 Team Rd., Suite 100 Matthews, NC 28105 www.Proverbs31.org

  • But I'd Rather Sleep Than Pray

    Karen Ehman APRIL 3, 2015

    But I'd Rather Sleep Than Pray KAREN EHMAN

    "Then He came to the disciples and found them sleeping. He asked Peter, ‘So, couldn’t you stay awake with Me one hour? Stay awake and pray, so that you won’t enter into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.’" Matthew 26:40-41 (HCSB)

    When I was a new Christian, I discovered a pamphlet entitled, How to Spend an Hour in Prayer. I was intrigued. I’d heard about people called prayer warriors who placed great emphasis on conversing with God. Prayer seemed to come to them naturally. For them, spending an hour in prayer must surely be a breeze.

    But honestly, back then I found it difficult to keep my thoughts from wandering when I prayed. Oftentimes today I still do! Instead they ricochet all over the place as I try to focus.

    However, one day, I decided that things were going to change. So I headed to a park with Bible in hand and a resolve in my heart to follow the step-by-step guide. I felt like a spiritual giant.

    I settled myself on a park bench, opened my Bible, looked down at my pamphlet and began to do what it suggested: "Spend five minutes thanking God for the blessings in your life. Spend five minutes praising God for His character qualities," and so on. Apparently, breaking down the various categories into five-minute increments was supposed to help. But it didn’t help me. Five minutes seemed like an eternity.

    Pretty soon a jogger happened by. He was carrying a small portable radio — without headphones — and the blaring music distracted me.

    Two hyper squirrels decided to chase each other up and down a tree, and around and around my bench. I laughed at their antics, but again lost my place. Even when the animals and humans quieted down, I still had trouble concentrating.

    I couldn’t focus; I kept thinking of all the things on my to-do list. And I was tired! The thought of just chucking my plans and heading home to take a nap seemed like a better idea. So, after about 23 minutes, I gave up, packed up and headed home. My conclusion? I just wasn’t cut out to be a prayer warrior. I’d rather sleep.

    It seems I am not alone. Today’s key verse tells us that even Jesus’ own disciples had a hard time with prayer. They fell asleep on the very day before Jesus was crucified. If ever someone needed the prayers of friends, it surely was then!

    Jesus verbalized the trouble with our best-intentions-turned-sour when He told His disciples this: "The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak." (Matthew 26:41b). How true! My spirit wants to connect and converse with God. But my flesh would rather be off getting things done. Or mentally making my grocery list. Or — worst yet — even copping some zzzzzs!

    In order to see progress in our prayer life, we need to make prayer a matter of prayer! No. That isn’t a typo. We must pray first — before anything else — that God would help us rein in our wandering thoughts. That’s our only hope to battle against the urge to doze off and win the struggle over how we spend our time.

    This doesn’t mean we’ll turn into prayer warriors overnight. But it does mean we’ll want desperately for Jesus to meet us in our weakness and teach us to do the hard work of making prayer a priority. He is faithful. We must be, too.

    Today is Good Friday. The day we remember Christ’s death on the cross for our sins. As you go about your day today, could you sacrifice some time in prayer?

    Remember that God sees our hearts and knows our struggles. He doesn’t expect perfection. But He does want us to keep striving for improvement in the crucial area of daily communication with Him.

    Father, forgive me for the times that I have let my flesh win when my spirit wanted to pray. May I never cease trying to develop the important habit of spending intimate time with You in prayer. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY: Romans 12:12, "Rejoice in hope; be patient in affliction; be persistent in prayer." (HCSB)

    1 Thessalonians 5:16-18, "Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus." (NIV)

    RELATED RESOURCES: For a fun activity with children that not only teaches the importance of prayer but also provides a delicious recipe for homemade pretzels, visit Karen Ehman’s blog. There she’s also giving away a copy of her book, Everyday Confetti: Your Year-round Guide to Celebrating Holidays and Special Occasions, where this idea first appeared.

    For more on learning to trust God through prayer, check out Karen’s book and corresponding DVD Bible study LET. IT. GO. How to Stop Running the Show and Start Walking in Faith.

    REFLECT AND RESPOND: How often do you find it easy to become distracted — or even sleepy — when you pray? When this happens, what can you do to fight against the flesh and keep on praying?

    © 2015 by Karen Ehman. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries 630 Team Rd., Suite 100 Matthews, NC 28105 www.Proverbs31.org

  • And Then I Received Another Rejection Letter

    Lysa TerKeurst APRIL 2, 2015And Then I Received Another Rejection Letter LYSA TERKEURST

    "Preach the word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke and encourage — with great patience and careful instruction." 2 Timothy 4:2 (NIV)

    I remember the letter like it was yesterday. In a nutshell, it was another publisher telling me my writing did not meet their needs at that time.

    And in his attempt to soften the blow, he’d added a wee bit of humor: "Just use this letter as the liner of your cat litter box as I’m sure one day things will work out for you."

    As if a little humor ever helped someone who has just been knocked into a pit of rejection.

    The letter wasn’t even signed.

    It was clear that nobody at the publishing house stood up in awe as they read my typed words and enthusiastically exclaimed, "Girl has skills!"

    I hung my head, got into my car, and drove to my local bookstore. I saved up all my tears until I was smack dab in the middle of thousands of other books — thousands of other writers who’d received a thumbs up to their dreams — thousands of other people with evidence that their writing mattered — and I sobbed.

    But the tears didn’t come from my eyes. They didn’t come from my heart. They came from my soul that was always slightly suspicious that God really didn’t have any sort of spectacular plan when He created me.

    After my rather impressive display of emotion in the middle of the bookstore, I drove home and silently declared I’d never set myself up for this kind of rejection again.

    I put all my writing attempts in a file drawer. I made tacos for dinner. And made note of the fact that God did nothing to soften this blow.

    There was no verse mysteriously written on a slip of paper that suddenly wafted down from my kitchen ceiling.

    There was no friend that called and said she felt led by the Holy Spirit to encourage me in my writing.

    There was no divine directive that gave any sort of inspiration for me to keep going.

    There was just this utter realization that I’d now have to tell all those praying for me that this writing a book thing was a no-go. In essence, with this "no" from a publisher, I felt I had no skills. And I’d obviously heard God wrong.

    So, surely I should give up.

    Oh how I wish I could go sit with myself on that day from the vantage point of this day.

    I would hand myself a tissue and state that this was not at all a rejection from God. It was a timing issue.

    Sometimes callings from God unfold in a miraculous instant. But more often callings happen within a million slow moments of me becoming mature enough to handle this calling.

    I needed to experience God revealing Himself and maturing me so I could properly handle the Truth I would eventually write and speak about. And so I could develop my communication skills by learning how to string thoughts and words together that could be received by an audience.

    We are charged to be prepared in 2 Timothy 4:2, "Preach the Word; be prepared in season and out of season; correct, rebuke, and encourage — with great patience and careful instruction."

    I know I needed maturity to be able to pay special attention to this whole verse, especially that last part … "with great patience and careful instruction."

    I am thankful it would be nearly four years … approximately 1,400 days … 35,040 hours … over 2.1 million moments before I was ready emotionally, spiritually and developmentally to properly handle the weight of God’s Word and the assignment of writing a book.

    Have you ever felt a stirring to write or attempted to write only to have something or someone shut it down?

    I understand. That’s why 14 years ago, after a publisher finally said yes, I knew I had to help other writers coming behind me. So, I developed a conference called She Speaks to train, equip, connect and breathe life into other writers’ dreams.

    You can click here for more information about She Speaks.

    But whether you want to write or fulfill another calling from God, let me assure you of one thing: Slow progress is better than no progress.

    The slow unfolding of readiness in us is often misunderstood to be a quick rejection by God. What a tragic mistake this is for many of us who too quickly shut down in our flesh what God is trying to develop in our spirit.

    Sweet sister, don’t give up. Ask yourself the questions I’ve listed below in the Reflect and Respond section. Then, walk toward the calling God created you to fulfill.

    Dear Lord, I want to step into the calling You’ve prepared for me. Help me push through feelings of doubt and rejection to embrace Your plan for my life. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY: 2 Timothy 4:5, "But you — keep your eye on what you’re doing; accept the hard times along with the good; keep the Message alive; do a thorough job as God’s servant." (MSG)

    RELATED RESOURCES: Receive the tools and the confidence you need to answer God’s call on your life at our She Speaks Conference! Find more information and sign up here.

    REFLECT AND RESPOND: Filter your feelings of rejection about your calling through these questions: 1) Have I taken this seriously by investing time, effort and resources in my development? 2) Have I given up too soon? 3) What have I let dissuade me from this calling, that I need to face? 4) Have I bought into the lie that all the opportunities for my calling have already been given to other people? 5) What’s one thing I can do today to move my calling forward?

    © 2015 by Lysa TerKeurst. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries 630 Team Rd., Suite 100 Matthews, NC 28105 www.Proverbs31.org

  • When Being Quiet Just Isn't Enough

    Sheila Walsh APRIL 1, 2015

    When Being Quiet Just Isn't Enough Sheila Walsh

    "Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God." 1 Peter 3:3-4 (NLT)

    My mother, Elizabeth, has a gentle and quiet spirit. I have her smile but, I’m still working on her spirit!

    I discovered that it’s not enough just to be quiet. Some cats are very quiet right before they pounce! No, the kind of beauty that Christ wants to work in us comes from a peaceful place of surrender, not from a woman who has learned to bite her tongue!

    I grew up as a bit of an emotional "stuffer." My dad’s brain injury and subsequent anger scared me badly as a child. After his death, I never wanted to make anyone angry or rock the boat. So rather than say what I honestly felt, I would put on a smile and push my feelings into the basement of my soul.

    Have you ever done that?

    Your husband said he’d be home at 5:30 p.m. for dinner, but now it’s 6:40 p.m. and the lasagna looks like a burnt offering! But rather than say, "Honey, if you’re going to be that late again, would you just give me a quick call?" you force a smile, feed the lasagna to the dog and start dinner over, muttering under your breath.

    Or maybe you’ve asked your daughter three times to bring her dirty laundry downstairs yet it still decorates every square inch of her bedroom. Rather than sit down with her and explain how disrespectful it is to continue to ignore your requests and promise consequences if it happens again, you just trudge upstairs and gather the abandoned articles yourself. It’s easier to just get it done, so you shove your feelings down and carry on.

    The trouble with living like that, however, is that when the basement gets too full, it only takes one more little thing and the whole place blows up like fireworks on the Fourth of July.

    There has to be a better way to live as daughters of the King of kings!

    I find it interesting that Peter compares focusing on the outside of our lives with what lies inside our hearts. It makes me think that to have a gentle and quiet spirit there must be a direct correlation. If you’re like me, when I only focus on what I can see in the mirror, I can get to a crazy place!

    I need to lose 15 pounds! My hair looks like it was attacked by a pack of wild cats! I have nothing to wear!

    Our world bombards us every day with unattainable images of so-called perfect women, and it’s hard not to compare ourselves with what we see. When I allow myself to go there, I know my life is not a thing of beauty to God or anyone else.

    So, here’s what I’m learning …

    • To find my worth in God’s amazing love for me.
    • To lean into the truth of who His Word says I am.
    • To talk through every little moment of my day with Him before I take it out on someone else.
    • To be honest with myself and with others.
    • To be still and know that He is God.

    The truth is, although perfection is a myth, pure and simple, godly beauty is something that never fades. When I read that it’s precious to God, I want that. I want to cultivate a life that brings Him honor and pleasure, don’t you?

    Dear Heavenly Father, thank You that You know me just as I am and You love me. Teach me to rest in Your love and to value what You value. May Your grace and Your love touch everyone I meet today. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY: Philippians 4:8, "Fix your thoughts on what is true, and honorable, and right, and pure, and lovely, and admirable. Think about things that are excellent and worthy of praise." (NLT)

    Matthew 6:27-29, "Can all your worries add a single moment to your life? And why worry about your clothing? Look at the lilies of the field and how they grow. They don’t work or make their clothing, yet Solomon in all his glory was not dressed as beautifully as they are." (NLT)

    RELATED RESOURCES: God’s Little Princess Bible is a full-text Bible for young princesses everywhere.

    Stop by Sheila Walsh’s website today for more encouragement to pursue pure and simple beauty.

    Enter to WIN a copy of God’s Little Princess Bible by Sheila Walsh. In celebration of this book, Sheila’s publisher is giving away 10 copies! Enter to win by leaving a comment here. Let us know why you’d like a copy for yourself, OR whom you would give the book to, if you won. {We’ll randomly select 10 winners and email notifications to each one by Monday, April 6.}

    REFLECT AND RESPOND: What one thing can you do today to cultivate a quiet and a gentle spirit?

    © 2015 by Sheila Walsh. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries thanks Thomas Nelson Publishers for their sponsorship of today's devotion.

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    Proverbs 31 Ministries 630 Team Rd., Suite 100 Matthews, NC 28105 www.Proverbs31.org

  • Moving From Grief to Grace

    Susan Mead MARCH 31, 2015

    Moving From Grief to Grace Susan B. Mead

    "He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." Psalm 147:3 (NIV)

    Grief hits each one of us and can come from so many different directions.

    A romantic relationship gone awry. The loss of a cherished friendship. A puppy put down. Empty arms and a broken heart due to abortion. Infertility. Abuse. The death of a loved one.

    Dreams with a hope and future dashed in an instant. I know. I’ve lived it, too.

    A phone call changed my hopes and future as Matt, my older son, wailed into the phone about my younger son, "Kyle died last night!"

    Oh, God.

    NO, GOD!

    Hopes, dreams, future …

    Wedding invitations from his friends simply ripped my heart apart. Birth announcements of babies from those now married friends rekindled the loss. And the realization that there would be no grandchildren from him — running to me, holding their pudgy little hands or him tossing them into the sky showered with shouts of glee — hit hard.

    Yes, weddings, graduations, birth announcements — all reminders of those hope-filled dreams that had been shattered — caused weeping, groaning and bitterness. My heart often wondered: Will I remain bitter or will I get better? Will I continue to dissolve into tears, or will I ever erupt into cheers for these precious friends?

    At one of my lowest moments, realization and remembrance flooded my heart and mind: God lost His Son too, His only Son. The Father knew my loss, pain and brokenness oh so well.

    That revelation was like supernatural glue applied to bind my wounded soul. The lost, dark, broken part receded as God proceeded to heal my broken heart with His love and light.

    How about your lost plans, hopes and dreams?

    Are you bitter?

    Do you want to be better?

    Are you ready to lay your heavy cares at the foot of the cross … and leave that burden there, so you can step into God’s plans for you? Jesus promised, "For My yoke is easy and My burden is light," (Matthew 11:30, NKJV).

    God’s plan for His Son was not what the people hoped for and expected as they celebrated the arrival of Jesus in Jerusalem that first Palm Sunday, then experienced His death on the cross by week’s end. They did not know Easter Sunday — His Son’s day — was coming.

    Remember, friend … Sunday’s coming! Jesus arose from the grave by the grace of God to save and redeem us. He has plans for us that include a hope and a future, even when our plans are dashed and we can’t see beyond the overwhelming loss of now.

    "‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future,’" (Jeremiah 29:11, NIV).

    We lost Kyle seven years and three days ago today. Yet, out of the ashes of grief a story of grace rises — the grace of our Lord, Jesus.

    Father, help me ease the grip on my grief and lay it at the foot of Your Son’s cross. Thank You that You can bind our wounds and heal our broken hearts. Remind us of Your magnificent plans for us, Lord God. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY: 1 Peter 5:8-11, "Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up. You’re not the only ones plunged into these hard times. It’s the same with Christians all over the world. So keep a firm grip on the faith. The suffering won’t last forever. It won’t be long before this generous God who has great plans for us in Christ — eternal and glorious plans they are! — will have you put together and on your feet for good. He gets the last word; yes, he does." (MSG)

    RELATED RESOURCES: If you, or someone you know, are working through grief and need help experiencing the transformational joy of the Lord, Susan Mead’s new book, Dance with Jesus: From Grief to Grace, can help.

    Join Susan on her blog today for her giveaway basket of goodies, including a Kindle Fire.

    Enter to WIN an autographed copy of Dance with Jesus: From Grief to Grace. In celebration of this book, Susan’s publisher is giving away 10 copies! Enter to win by leaving a comment here, letting us know why you’d like a copy for yourself OR whom you would give the book to, if you won. (We’ll randomly select 10 winners and email notifications to each one on Monday, April 6.)

    REFLECT AND RESPOND: Reflect on how you felt when you read, "He gets the last word," from our Truth for Today Scripture above.

    © 2015 by Susan B. Mead. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries 630 Team Rd., Suite 100 Matthews, NC 28105 www.Proverbs31.org

  • One Holy Morning

    Liz Curtis Higgs MARCH 30, 2015

    One Holy Morning LIZ CURTIS HIGGS

    "Early on the first day of the week, while it was still dark, Mary Magdalene went to the tomb …" John 20:1 (NIV)

    Long before daylight touched the sky, a trombone choir crept along the deserted sidewalks of Main Street, gently nudging the sleeping town awake. Each step drew them closer to the historic church square, where they would form a semicircle, point their instruments toward heaven and herald the dawn of another Resurrection Day.

    I tossed aside my bedcovers, eager to get going. "He is risen!"

    "He is risen, indeed!" my husband mumbled, though I heard the smile behind his words.

    Our two teenagers appeared, bleary-eyed. "This better be worth it, Mom."

    It would be.

    We dressed in a hurry, then joined dozens of worshippers assembled on the church lawn. Many had their hands tucked under their arms for warmth, like robins poking their bills beneath their wings.

    When the final trombone note floated across the square, my husband shepherded our family through the narrow, wooden doors of the church. We settled into a pew near the front and exchanged glances, our eyes moist. Almost time.

    Two thousand years ago, Mary Magdalene ran through the streets of Jerusalem "while it was still dark" (John 20:1), seeking the One who called Himself light. But He was not there. The tomb was empty. As two angels looked on, Mary Magdalene wept. She didn’t grasp the truth of His resurrection until He spoke her name: "Mary" (John 20:16).

    The Lord speaks our names as well, in the depths of our hearts. He calls us to see Him as He truly is: risen, victorious, eternal. He calls us to believe, to leave the darkness of doubt behind and step into the light of His truth.

    That Easter morning, my family and I sat up straighter as John’s Gospel was read aloud, the words washing over us like a shower, scrubbing us clean. Out of the corner of my eye, I watched my teenagers listen more intently than usual. The greatest story ever told, the one that never gets old: the Son of God, risen from the dead.

    We’d heard His story before, but we needed to hear it again. To be reminded.

    My son elbowed me. "When do we go to the cemetery?"

    "Soon," I promised. It was the highlight of our sunrise service, that solemn walk to God’s Acre — the hallowed field where those who’d fallen asleep in the Lord in centuries past were laid to rest.

    When the brief service in the sanctuary ended, we left the stained-glass walls behind and moved out into the damp morning. Trombones and trumpets and French horns echoed across the church parking lot as we walked toward the graves.

    Flat, plain stones — so old the engravings were worn smooth — pressed down upon the spongy earth. We enclosed them in a human square, facing due east in anticipation.

    I realized that nothing was going to actually happen among these graves. I was not Mary Magdalene, and this was not the first Easter. Oh, but it felt like it.

    We’d sung His praises and spoken His name. Now we stood, transformed among the tombs, as we watched the sky above us slowly brighten.

    On that sacred morning long ago, Mary Magdalene couldn’t keep the good news to herself. She went to the disciples, just as Jesus had commanded her, and told them, "I have seen the Lord!" (John 20:18).

    He urges all of us who love Him to do the same. To tell everyone who will listen, "The Lord is alive. He is real. And here’s how much He loves you."

    Dear God, thank You for the resurrection of Your Son, Jesus. We want to celebrate Him every day of our lives. In a world that grows increasingly dark, help us hold up His light. Give us the courage to speak as boldly as Mary Magdalene did, and never be ashamed of proclaiming Your Good News. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY: John 8:12, "When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, ‘I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.’" (NIV)

    2 Corinthians 4:6, "For God, who said, ‘Let light shine out of darkness,’ made his light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of God’s glory displayed in the face of Christ." (NIV)

    RELATED RESOURCES: Celebrate spring with Liz Curtis Higgs’ joy-filled daily devotional, Rise and Shine: Encouragement to Start Your Day.

    Join Liz as she unwraps the Bible each week on her blog.

    REFLECT AND RESPOND: The days and weeks leading up to Easter give us a chance to prepare our hearts for renewal, to leave behind the darkness of winter and welcome the warmth and light of spring. What could you do to make this Easter your most memorable yet?

    How might you, like Mary Magdalene, share the Good News with someone you care about?

    © 2015 by Liz Curtis Higgs. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries 630 Team Rd., Suite 100 Matthews, NC 28105 www.Proverbs31.org

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