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  • The Stress Cure

    Posted on September 24, 2014 by Family Christian

    Linda

    "The LORD is my strength and shield. I trust him with all my heart. He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy. I burst out in songs of thanksgiving." Psalm 28:7 (NLT)

    Not long ago, I heard a radio preacher say, "If you have stress, that means you're not trusting God." I was having a stressful day, so I didn't particularly care for his remark. I silently argued, Why of course I trust God, my problem is I'm having a day that won't let me "phone-it-in."

    My stressful day started the morning I had to drive 50 miles to do a live radio interview in another town. As the clock ticked down to my departure time, everything started to go wrong. I suddenly remembered I needed to get a tax report into the mail.

    As I felt my stress rise, I got a call telling me payroll was late. This was a payroll I had to sign before I left town so my assistant could get paid and buy groceries — a habit she didn't like to break. So by the time I finished, filed, found and signed my paperwork, my stress level was high and I was late for the radio interview, which I could not do via phone.

    So, I hopped in my car and with sweat trickling between my shoulder blades, I raced through freeway traffic for 50 miles. When I arrived, I sprinted to catch the elevator. When it reached the top floor, I dashed down the hall and slipped into the chair and headphones as the radio station's mike went live. The host barely managed to whisper, "And I was beginning to think you wouldn't make it!"

    As I talked to the host about how we can live our lives in a deeper relationship with God, I had to laugh at myself for not including more of God in my day. Sure, I'd shot off many Help-me-Lord prayers that morning. But in all my rush to get to the radio station, I felt more flustered than peaceful.

    What could I have done differently? To find a clue, let's unpack Psalm 28:7.

    This verse starts with "The LORD is my strength and shield."

    This is a great reminder that we can use God's strength to make it through any of our problems. In fact, God's strength can serve to shield us from the fiery darts of worry, fear and stress. This news is a great relief!

    The next line of this verse says, "I trust him with all my heart."

    These words prompt us to trust God. The next time you're tempted to turn a hectic day into a panic attack, instead say, "I'm going to trust God through this." You'll soon discover that your choice to trust God will calm you with a peace that surpasses understanding.

    The rest of the verse says, "He helps me, and my heart is filled with joy. I burst out in songs of thanksgiving."

    This puts us on notice to acknowledge God's help and presence in our lives. When we take the time to count our blessings, to remind ourselves of all the ways God has helped us through difficulties, we are sure to experience His joy.

    Maybe the radio preacher had it right. When we remember to trust God and to face a hectic day in His strength, we'll see our blessings and count it all as joy.

    Dear Lord, I often allow stress to rule my life. I rush to achieve my goals in my own strength, forgetting that I can rely on Your strength. Help me to put my trust in You so I can relax in Your great love. Thank You for all the blessings You send my way. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY:
    Hebrews 10:35, "So do not throw away this confident trust in the Lord. Remember the great reward it brings you!" (NLT)

    Psalm 55:22, "Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let he righteous be shaken." (NIV)

    REFLECT AND RESPOND:
    What past stress are you still holding on to?

    What would happen if you gave both yesterday and today's stress to the Lord?

    © 2014 by Linda Evans Shepherd. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries thanks Revell Publishers for their sponsorship of today's devotion.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries
    630 Team Rd., Suite 100
    Matthews, NC 28105
    www.Proverbs31.org

  • Time to Do a Little Faith Stretching

    Posted on September 23, 2014 by Tracie Miles

    Tracie

    "And it is impossible to please God without faith. Anyone who wants to come to him must believe that God exists and that he rewards those who sincerely seek him." Hebrews 11:6 (NLT)

    I knew the work would be tough, the weather would be hot and the floor I'd sleep on would be hard. But little did I know none of those inconveniences would be the "stretching" part.

    Several years ago, I participated in a mission trip to renovate homes of families in need. God planned to stretch me beyond what was comfortable that week, but as it turned out, it wasn't the work or inconveniences that stretched me.

    I wasn't stretched as I climbed up a 10-foot ladder to hand someone a heavy can of paint. Or as I sprawled across a noisy air mattress every night — hoping it wouldn't completely deflate before morning. I wasn't stretched as I endured 105-degree temperatures, wearing the required attire of full-length jeans that stuck to my sweaty legs like glue.

    I wasn't even stretched taking showers in close proximity to total strangers, separated by only a thin curtain, or when I shared that awkward shower with a large, dead, winged creature lying in the drain.

    None of these things were enjoyable, but they weren't really outside of my "comfort zone." Yet when it came time to walk through a local neighborhood, knock on doors and share the Gospel, with the looming fear a door might be slammed in my face (or worse), I felt my faith being stretched.

    Looking back now, I realize God was gently pushing me out of my comfort zone into a faith zone. He confronted me with the choice to stretch my faith or play it safe.

    It would have been easy to send my work crew down the street without me. I could have stood in the shadows of the big oak trees as others on the team approached the strangers. But God had planted a burning conviction in my heart to trust Him and do some serious stretching. So standing alone on the sidewalk wasn't an option.

    I had no idea that by stepping out in faith, I would receive the greatest blessing.

    There are countless stories in the Bible of God calling people out of their comfort zones. And with each one, the stretching brought blessings they'd never imagined.

    Abraham trusted God for the child he was promised, despite his and his wife's advanced age. His faith-stretching ended with a little baby in his arms named Isaac.

    Jesus' disciples feared for their lives when a violent storm threatened to sink their boat. But Peter's faith to step out of the boat at Jesus' invitation resulted in Peter's human feet miraculously walking on water.

    Jesus told a crippled man, with muscles weak and atrophied, to get up and walk. The man stretched his faith as he stretched out his legs and walked for the very first time.

    And on it goes. A blind man who had faith to believe Jesus could heal, saw Jesus' face with those very eyes. Joshua might have felt ridiculous circling the walls of Jericho seven times, but eventually the walls came crumbling down. Joseph spent more than 10 years in a dark dungeon, but it was his unwavering faith which eventually landed him on the throne.

    God calls us all to do some faith stretching now and then. Whether we are called to leave our comfort zones to obey and act, or to rest and trust God during a difficult season of life, He always rewards great faith with wonderful blessings, just as today's key verse promises.

    Maybe stepping outside of your comfort zone to obey God seems like too much of a stretch right now. Keep in mind that although it may seem impossible, God will never stretch us beyond what we are capable of in His strength — not ours. And when we are willing to be stretched, blessings begin to flow.

    Lord, help me fully trust You with my life and develop a faith that is willing to stretch for Your sake, and mine. Show me how You can use my life for Your good. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY:
    Philippians 4:13, "For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me strength." (NLT)

    Psalm 138:3, "In the day when I cried out, You answered me, and made me bold with strength in my soul." (NKJV)

    REFLECT AND RESPOND:
    In what ways has God been calling you to leave your comfort zone?

    What is one thing you could do today to stretch your faith muscles?

    © 2014 by Tracie Miles. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries
    630 Team Rd., Suite 100
    Matthews, NC 28105
    www.Proverbs31.org

  • Lord, Unrush Me

    Posted on September 22, 2014 by Lysa TerKeurst

    Lysa

    "'But what about you?' he asked. 'Who do you say I am?' Simon Peter answered, 'You are the Messiah, the Son of the living God.'" (Matthew 16:15-16, NIV)

    Ever felt like you've set your life to the rhythm of rush? Me too.

    Sometimes it takes stepping out of the rush to see things. Recently, I went to the Holy Land. It was a trip I'd longed to take for years. But as the day to leave marched closer and closer, I wished I'd scheduled it later — another time, a time when life didn't feel so busy.

    Exhaustion gnawed deep places in my heart, demanding me to slow down. But how? I've made my decisions and now my decisions have made me. Me — this shell of a woman caught in the rush of endless demands.

    But the trip was booked, so I went. And I'm forever glad I did. In the Holy Land, busy took a break from chasing me. This trip forced me to "unrush," and I discovered I like who I am so much better when I'm not set to the wrong rhythm.

    I also learned more about Jesus. His life. His decisions. His lessons.

    And do you know what the most impactful lesson was for me personally? Jesus never rushed. He set His life to the rhythm of connection and compassion. With great intentionality Jesus stayed unrushed. This is what I want.

    This is what I was longing for but didn't know it. Like Jesus, I must unrush my pace for connection and compassion to take place.

    As I walked many of the same places Jesus walked, I was struck profoundly by this. He knew pressure. He knew stress. People pulled at Him everywhere He went. Crowds demanded sermons. Individuals begged for healing. The disciples wanted leadership. Friends wanted time with Him. The religious rulers wanted answers. There was an entire world to save with such limited time.

    Yet, He didn't rush. He talked with the woman at the well. He reached out His hand, making contact, and healed the leper. He felt the touch of the woman with the issue of blood and stopped for her. Do you see it? Connection and compassion were central to every interaction.

    And then for those with whom Jesus was the closest? That's when He was the most unrushed.

    While I was in the Holy Land, I visited the site that's recorded in Matthew 16:13-20. In the shadow of a pagan temple hustling with unspeakable acts and human sacrifices, Jesus asked His disciples just who they really thought He was. Then He pointed and said, "I will build my church and the gates of Hades will not prevail against it," (NKJV). He connected truth with Peter's calling. He compassionately assured Peter that the church would prevail.

    I'm sure Peter recalled this conversation many, many times.

    It must have given him the courage to become one of the most pivotal church leaders in history. And he had this conversation to remember, because Jesus wasn't too busy to have it. When I was in Israel, I learned the Lord walked three days to get to this one spot where He made this point with Peter.

    It would seem Jesus was unrushed so He could be incredibly intentional and laser-focused on connection and compassion.

    If I were reading this right now, I would probably think, "That's great you went to the Holy Land and it helped unrush you, but I can't do that right now." I understand. So, let this truth from Jesus' life come to you.

    It's not the location that changed me.

    It was the revelation.

    Jesus didn't rush, so neither should I.

    Today, let's pray this very simple three-word prayer that we so desperately need: "Lord, unrush me."

    Father God, these three words are the echo of my soul. Lord, show me how to slow down and leave that sacred space for relationships. I want to follow Your example of staying focused on connection and compassion. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY:
    Hebrews 10:24-25, "And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing but encouraging one another — and all the more as you see the Day approaching." (NIV)

    REFLECT AND RESPOND:
    What do you need to do to protect and strengthen the fabric of your relationships? How can you get help to divide up your responsibilities and have healthy time with the people who matter most to you?

    Connecting with those we love is like soul food. Write down three or four people close to you who might benefit from some relational time with you in the next week. Then be intentional with a phone call, email or text message to them.

    © 2014 by Lysa TerKeurst. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries
    630 Team Rd., Suite 100
    Matthews, NC 28105
    www.Proverbs31.org

  • Interview with Louie Giglio

    Posted on September 20, 2014 by Family Christian

     

    Family Christian:     What is the main driving force behind what you do? (i.e. Passion Conferences, pastoring, mentoring young people, etc.)

     

    Louie Giglio:   As long as I can remember, the compelling force behind my calling is a desire to know Jesus more and to make Him known. I believe I was created for a relationship with Jesus, so growing in my relationship with Him and worshiping Him with all my heart and life is preeminent. As an overflow of my life – the wake I leave behind with my little dash on earth – I want others to fall in love with Jesus and know of His great hope and purpose for their lives.

     

    Family Christian:    When and how did the Passion Conferences come to be? What was the hope/vision behind it? How did it get to be the huge success it is now?

     

    Louie Giglio:   Passion was born out of a desire to see the close to 20-million university students in America awaken to their God-created purpose and destiny. Shelley and I had been working for a decade with students on one college campus in Texas and had relocated to Atlanta in 1995 to help with the care of my recently disabled father. But suddenly my father passed away and we were neither serving him nor the students we left behind at Baylor University. In that window of confusion and grief God called us to the great opportunity of hosting gatherings for students from all the campuses of the nation. The Passion Movement was born with a gathering of 2000 students in Austin in January 1997. Our growth and influence is hard to quantify or explain. We believe the focus on Jesus, and the clarion call to this generation to live for His fame, is an enduring and worthy effort which God has blessed and favored.

     

    Family Christian:    What is your vision for Passion 2015? Will it be any different from previous years? Is there a theme? Who will be joining you on stage this year?

     

    Louie Giglio:   We are massively excited about Passion 2015, hosting three three-day events – two in Atlanta and one in Houston. Though the faces will be the same, and some of our core speakers will return, the focus will remain as always The Glory Of God.

     

    Family Christian:   What is your favorite (or one of your favorite) passages of Scripture and why? How has it helped you in your life?

     

    Louie Giglio:    While we are speaking of Passion, I think I'll say 1 Thessalonians 5:24 – “Faithful is he who calls who, he also will bring it to pass.” This has been an anchor for Shelley and me as we have followed Jesus personally, and with big mission steps like Passion, and Passion City Church. God has plans and purposes for each of our lives. But the beauty is that He doesn't call us and leave us on our own. Jesus actually lives in us to pull off the amazing things that He has invited us into.

     

    Family Christian:     How should a Christian respond to the tragic current events that are happening around the world today?

     

    Louie Giglio:   The world has been tragic since the day Adam and Eve sinned in the garden. From that moment murder, mayhem and war entered the scene and we are still suffering the consequences of a man-driven, self-serving, short-sighted environment. Yet, like on that day in the garden, God is at work, extending grace, working His restoration plan and bringing all things to the feet of Jesus. To navigate these uncertain and painful days we must be on mission every day, keep our eyes on the hope of Jesus' coming and work to serve all men while we can.

     

     

     

    Family Christian:    What do you think the current generation needs to hear about God and faith?

     

    Louie Giglio:    I know we all need to hear the gospel, but I think more than anything the current generation needs to SEE God as His people live out the sermon, extend truth and grace in tangible ways and demonstrate to the world a real and authentic faith that reverberates through all the facets of our lives. It's time to preach with our actions and be bold with our words, letting people know God is close, He is better and He is able to repair and restore.

     

    Family Christian:   What can we look for from you in the future? (books, DVDs, speaking tours, etc).

     

    Louie Giglio:    Well, I'll be at Passion City Church Sunday speaking about the significance of life and death! :) So that's next for me. As far as resources, we are working on a major book project now we hope to make available in 2015.

  • How Do I Trust Again?

    Posted on September 19, 2014 by Suzie Eller

    Suzie

    "The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me. My heart leaps for joy, and with my song I praise him." Psalm 28:7 (NIV)

    Years ago, hurtful words from a friend landed in a tender spot in my heart. It was already damaged by a previous incident with her ... and the one before that.

    When this friend was frustrated or lost her temper, words just tumbled out. Words that went straight to my vulnerable places.

    Each time she said she was sorry, and she meant it.

    I knew we could work through it, but part of me wanted to give up on trusting her altogether. Why trust someone who might let you down again?

    In fact, why trust at all? Why not just close my heart and keep it safe from any potential harm?

    King David understood this struggle. In Psalm 28, David asks God for help. Many scholars believe that this was written at the end of David's life. At this point, he knows what it is to hide from words and actions that harm. He understands how it feels to be surrounded by people who say they are loyal to him, but sometimes let him down.

    Even at this late stage, it may have been tempting to shut everyone out and never trust again ... not just the people who intentionally sought to harm him, but those who loved him and messed up. It might have even crossed his mind that he should trust no one at all.

    Instead, in verse 7 we see David's thoughts and attitude change and find him singing a beautiful song to his Heavenly Father. In this place of hurt and uncertainty, he reveals a secret: He can trust because God is trustworthy.

    With my friend, I found that same hope.

    The Lord is our strength and shield.

    Like a triple-plated silver shield, David needed God's protection for his heart. David may have wanted to isolate, but God had handwritten a plan for his life. People were an integral part of that blueprint.

    The reality is that people are messy. My friend was a mess. Sometimes I'm a big ol' mess, too. The words my friend spoke hurt and we needed to work through it, but God's shield of protection allowed me to see the areas where He was still working in both of us. It also offered His truth to counterbalance hurtful words.

    This shield allowed me to approach her from a place of resolution, rather than a place of offense or retaliation.

    Our hearts trust in Him and He helps us.

    We need wisdom to know what to say, when to say it and when to hold those words back. God offers that guidance (James 1:5).

    We need discernment over what is ours to fix and when to step back as God does His part (Psalm 55:22).

    We need to know what to do when someone is destructive or unwilling to change, and how to transfer our trust to God in that hard situation, rather than take matters into our own hands. We can ask for hope and healing in our hearts while God performs His work in someone else's heart.

    Our hearts leap for joy, and with a song we praise Him.

    Conflicts, difficult conversations or poor behavior can make you want to give up or shut people out completely. In David's case, trusting in God produced a strong foundation that led him out of seclusion and into a plan and a purpose.

    Have you been tempted to climb into a cave of isolation?

    Do you sense God asking you to trust again? Maybe not even in a specific person, but in Him? In others? In the fact that He's completely with you as you run after His plan for your life?

    My friend is still my friend. She's changed a lot in the past few years, and it's delightful to have watched that transformation.

    Is she perfect? No, but neither am I. We're two imperfect women whose hearts trust in God.

    Dear Lord, someone has hurt my heart and my response has been to hide or build a wall. Thank You for wisdom, compassion and discernment as I trust in You first, and You show me how to trust others. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY:
    Psalm 37:4-5, "Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD; trust in him, and he will act." (ESV)

    REFLECT AND RESPOND:
    When someone breaks our trust repeatedly, that can impact relationships that are innocent of wrongdoing. In essence, they pay a price for someone else's actions.

    In your journal, write down the names of those closest to you who are innocent of wrongdoing but who are paying a price due to someone else's wrongdoing in your past. Ask God to help you trust again.

    © 2014 by Suzie Eller. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries
    630 Team Rd., Suite 100
    Matthews, NC 28105
    www.Proverbs31.org

  • What We Miss When We Rush

    Posted on September 18, 2014 by Lysa TerKeurst

    Lysa

    "Yours, LORD, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the majesty and the splendor, for everything in heaven and earth is yours." 1 Chronicles 29:11a (NIV)

    A few years ago, I had the amazing privilege to meet BJ. He was sitting in front of me on a flight and made sure to welcome me the minute I took my seat. It didn't take long for BJ to make everyone around us aware of how excited he was to be on the plane.

    His voice was loud, his exclamations seemed a bit childlike for a man his age, and his stuttered words made it difficult to completely understand him.

    But one thing was unmistakable to me — his passionate embrace of the magnificent.

    As we rose into the sky he clapped and bounced in his seat. His eyes were wide as he turned to the man sitting next to him and exclaimed, "The clouds are huge!"

    That's when the nudging on my heart started. This gentle prodding to ignore the task-oriented part of me wanting to get work done. A rush-like whisper tripped over those boundaries I'd erected to keep my thoughts focused and orderly.

    Embrace this moment, Lysa. Notice him. Notice Me.

    The decision to pay attention to BJ was a Best Yes for me. Because there are signs of God everywhere, if we choose to see them.

    Looking back on that day, 1 Chronicles 29:11 comes to mind, "Yours, LORD, is the greatness and the power and the glory and the majesty and the splendor, for everything in heaven and earth is yours."

    Everyone else on the plane that day looked grumpy and annoyed and put off by their travels.

    But BJ saw what no one else did. We were in a fast moving tube, taking off from the ground, flying through the clouds, being transported from one place to another many miles away in a matter of minutes. Minutes!

    And there we all sat, grumpy. Not even bothering to look at the clouds and notice.

    We'd lost our passionate embrace of the magnificent.

    I wanted to rush through this part of my trip so I could get on with what? Rushing to get my luggage? Rushing to get a cab? Rushing to get to a meeting? No wonder I'm so bored.

    When we landed, BJ could hardly contain his excitement. He clapped and jumped into the aisle of the plane. When he spotted his mom waiting for him, he got even louder pumping his arms into the air telling everyone that was his mom.

    "My mom! My mom! Right there — there she is — that's my mom!" BJ cheered.

    His mom's face reddened but kept the sweetest, gentlest look as she threw her arms around her man-boy. She sweetly pressed her finger to her lips signaling him to quiet down just a bit.

    That's when I reached her. With a lump in my throat and tears cresting my eyes I touched her shoulder, "Your son is amazing. Really, really amazing."

    Some would say BJ has special needs. I understand that. So does one of my kids. But I wonder if we are wrong in giving that label to someone who has such capacity to not lose the wonder of life.

    I wonder if I was really the one with special needs that day. After all, I needed BJ way more than he possibly needed me.

    As I reached BJ's mom, I wanted to tell her more of my story. I wanted to throw my arms around her and tell her about the time a teacher told me my child was no longer a good fit for their school with "test standards to uphold." I wanted to tell her about how I cried myself to sleep that night feeling the deepest rejection I'd ever known.

    I wanted to tell her how I walked to my child's bedside in the middle of the night and begged God to make the connections work in his brain so he could read and excel and have the kind of future I desperately wanted for him.

    I wanted to tell her how I got mad at God and questioned Him.

    I wanted to tell her. Because I knew she'd understand.

    But as I touched her shoulder all I could get out was how amazing her son was. And then my throat did that lockdown thing and I knew better than to stand there and drip tears and snot on her. So, I walked away. And though I was crying, I was smiling.

    Her son has such a rich, wonderful purpose on this earth. His joy ministered deeply to me that day. God assured my heart that He has a wonderful plan for all His children. All!

    God used him.

    This man-boy, who I'm convinced has the world's greatest gift for teaching others about joy and the passionate embrace of the magnificent.

    Dear Lord, unrush me. I don't want to miss one more moment. Help me learn to see the magnificent today. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY:
    Psalm 138:8a, "The Lord will fulfill his purpose for me;" (ESV).

    REFLECT AND RESPOND:
    What everyday things have you been taking for granted? Take time to write down five of those things. Then, list reasons why these ordinary things are actually special blessings from God.

    © 2014 by Lysa TerKeurst. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries
    630 Team Rd., Suite 100
    Matthews, NC 28105
    www.Proverbs31.org

  • Wisdom from Nicaragua

    Posted on September 17, 2014 by Family Christian

    While in Nicaragua, on a trip with World Vision, we visited a school in an impoverished community where World Vision is training teens to mentor younger students in their school on academic topics. Essentially, juniors and seniors are mentoring 3rd-6th graders in reading and math. As we listened to the student mentors, I was deeply inspired by their character, sacrifice, and effort in serving the younger students of their community. Because I was so inspired I choose to address the teens in a manner that was unique but very purposeful.

     

     

     

    With my interpreter, I pulled up a chair right in front of the twenty students so that I could be close to them and look each of them in the eye. As I began, I shared with them that I want to speak to them as if I were their father and that they were to hear me as if the words are coming from their Papa.

     

    What I said to them is this: “As your father I am incredibly proud of you. You are the very best this nation has to offer. You're sacrificial, in that each of you gives up your free time to mentor younger students. Most of you walk many kilometers to be here to instruct and encourage younger students. You, in fact, are not normal student leaders, but truly extraordinary leaders. Your hearts long to make a difference and give back to your community and thereby inspire students and teachers alike. Your effort is making a difference. You are raising up a strong generation. You are setting others up for success. You are setting this community up for success. You honor your family name and your honor your Lord Jesus Christ. As my son or daughter, I would choose you every time.”

     

    Each student was deeply engaged in receiving this feedback and encouragement. Some even had tears in their eyes.

     

    As I ended, the young 17 year old girl who was the leader of this team of mentors spoke these powerful words: “Thank you for seeing us for who we are, not for what we have.”


     

    She stunned me. In our nation many strive to be seen for what they have, not for who they are.  Just the exact opposite of this profound young lady.

     

    As I reflected on her deep comment, my prayer became; “Lord, by your grace may my heart and effort be focused on being seen for who I am in Christ, and not for what I have.”

     

    May we be as wise as this teen from an impoverished village in Nicaragua.

    Written by:

    Steve Biondo

    SVP, HR & Organizational Development at Family Christian

  • The "Perfect" Cup of Coffee

    Posted on September 17, 2014 by Kathi Lipp

    Kathi

    "I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world." John 16:33 (NIV)

    It was going to be the perfect Father's Day. Perfect.

    All my husband wanted was his nonfat peppermint mocha.

    And I — his list-making, get 'er done wife — was going to make his dreams come true. So we headed for the coffee shop.

    But as we pulled into the drive-thru, the unthinkable happened: Another car cut in front of us.

    And me? I lost my mind.

    I rolled down my window and screamed, "Are you KIDDING me?!? Who raised you?!?"

    I thought I'd recovered sufficiently, but then Roger said, "Kathi, I need you to calm down."

    Through gritted teeth, I growled back, "I am calm!"

    To which Roger replied, "So why are you unbuckling your seatbelt?"

    Okay — maybe I wasn't as calm as I thought.

    I continued to seethe for the rest of our time in line. I was livid, but there wasn't anything I could do except grumble and complain.

    When we finally pulled up to the window, the young barista looked confused. He handed us our drinks and said, "I don't really understand what's happening, but the car ahead of you bought all your drinks and told me to tell you that they were raised by wolves."

    Thankfully I can laugh about that incident now, but in the moment I wanted everything to be perfect. And when it wasn't, I lost it. That's not the only time the Perfectionism Bully (so named because it keeps beating me up) has made an appearance in my life. And the results are usually anything but funny.

    Perfectionism lures us onto the hamster wheel of Try-Harder Living, causing us to become obsessed with results. "If you do everything just right, everything will turn out according to plan," it quietly lies to us.

    When we've been brainwashed by perfectionism, we feel that people who violate our expectations deserve whatever reaction they provoke. Like yelling out the car window in the drive-through.

    Or giving a spouse the silent treatment to "teach him a lesson" for spoiling our perfect plans.

    Or meddling in a child's life under the guise of "helping" things turn out just right ... the way we know they should.

    Unlike the Perfectionism Bully, God tells us the truth. He is realistic and upfront as our key verse mentions: "In this world you will have trouble" (John 16:33b). He also assures us that in Him, we can have peace because He has "overcome the world!"

    Here are some practices I've learned when the desire to try harder and harder to make things "just right" starts to brew:

    Pull back and pause. When you recognize perfectionism for what it is — a deceptive bully — you can choose to pull back instead of letting it force you forward, demanding results. You can pause to see what's actually worth yelling out a car window for (a child running into a busy street) and what's not (a car cutting in front of you).

    Pray for discernment. Ask whether you're being driven by fear or guided by God. The condemning voice in your head insisting, "That's not good enough! Try harder!" is perfectionism. The still, small voice of loving conviction speaking to your heart is God.

    Practice "Tiny Acts of Rebellion." Take an active stand against the Perfectionism Bully. Say "no" to its destructive demands and "yes" to caring choices. Praise your child for making his own bed and don't fix it for him. Welcome a guest into your home without apologizing for "this mess." Leave home wearing no makeup, just a big smile.

    Rebelling against perfectionism's tyranny requires bravery. But take heart! It's totally worth it. As you break free from this bully, the peace of Christ will rule your heart instead.

    Lord, help me to recognize the voice of the Perfectionism Bully today. Lead me to hear, believe and follow only You. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY:
    Colossians 3:15, "Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful." (NIV)

    Isaiah 26:3, "You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, all whose thoughts are fixed on you!" (NLT)

    REFLECT AND RESPOND:
    Think about a recent situation in which you tried harder and harder to make things "just right." Ask yourself: Was I driven by fear or guided by God?

    Plan a "Tiny Act of Rebellion" against the Perfectionism Bully for today and tell a trusted friend about it. (You could even invite her to be your Bravery Buddy!)

    © 2014 by Kathi Lipp. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries thanks Harvest House Publishing for their sponsorship of today's devotion.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries
    630 Team Rd., Suite 100
    Matthews, NC 28105
    www.Proverbs31.org

  • Dying to My Selfie

    Posted on September 16, 2014 by Lynn Cowell

    Lynn

    "For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin ..." Romans 6:6 (NIV)

    Girls' weekend was finally here! I was so excited to be going away with my two girls and their friends, that when someone hollered, "Selfie!" I nudged my way into the picture just in time.

    The selfie is a spontaneous picture taken to capture ...

    To capture what?

    Sometimes, like our road-trip shot, it's to capture a moment we're enjoying and people we're loving. Other times, I wonder if it's more than that.

    "Mom, you always find a way to get in there!" one of my girls lovingly laughed from the back seat.

    My daughter's tease got me thinking ...

    Do I always find a way to get in on what is going on? If so, why?

    Do I turn selfie moments into opportunities to make the moment about me? Shift the attention toward me?

    Shouldn't I be past this?

    Sometimes the young girl we once were, the one who wanted to be noticed, the one who sought after a boy's attention or longed for her parents' approval, is not completely gone.

    Maybe there's a side of me still wanting acceptance and attention. This possibility makes me uncomfortable. I don't want to be an insecure woman.

    I want to be a woman who reflects love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control (Galatians 5:22-23). I want to have selfless attributes of a heart that reflects Christ in me, the fruit of His Spirit on display. A lasting grace that isn't about getting attention, but about serving and loving others more than I love myself.

    I want that kind of beauty for me, and for my daughters as well.

    But to gain it, I have to give something up. I'm going to have to die first.

    Die to the me who is all about me.

    Die to my selfie.

    Because, when I die to me, another woman can emerge. A woman whose character is found in the love she gives, the joy she lives and the peace when she forgives.

    A woman who doesn't make her life about gaining attention, but giving it.

    Today's key verse reminds me that Jesus' work on the cross makes it possible for me to become this kind of woman: "For we know that our old self was crucified with him so that the body ruled by sin might be done away with, that we should no longer be slaves to sin" (Romans 6:6).

    Christ died so I don't have to struggle with the sin of self-centeredness, the pull to make life about me. Christ's new life in me means I no longer have to be a slave to needing attention. I can confidently put the spotlight on Him and others.

    And here is the intriguing twist: A woman who possesses this type of beauty, who chooses others above herself is hard to find, yet she is easy to spot.

    Jesus, I want to be beautiful the way You define beautiful. A woman whose life reflects Your life inside of me. Help me to die to myself so that You might daily live strong in me. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY:
    Galatians 2:20, "I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me. The life I now live in the body, I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave himself for me." (NIV)

    REFLECT AND RESPOND:
    Reflect on the past 24 hours. Can you spot a moment when you needed to "die to your selfie"?

    In that moment, were you able to recognize this difficult choice you were facing of choosing others over yourself?

    Today, ask the Father to help you recognize when you need to choose others over yourself.

    © 2014 by Lynn Cowell. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries
    630 Team Rd., Suite 100
    Matthews, NC 28105
    www.Proverbs31.org

  • Shut the Door on Anger

    Posted on September 15, 2014 by Sharon Glasgow

    Sharon

    "'In your anger do not sin': Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold." Ephesians 4:26-27 (NIV)

    I was alone downstairs in my home — at least I thought I was, until noises from the cellar startled me. From the corner of my eye, I saw something move. Taking a big gulp, I looked up to see eyes staring at me from the cellar door. Fear gripped me, and I screamed for my husband.

    Peering out from behind Dale, I could see a long snake hanging firmly from the top of the door. Dale grabbed it and pulled it off. I watched from on top of the table as he juggled the snake's weight toward the front door and flung it outside.

    With a sigh of relief, I gathered myself and sat back down to work. Ellie, my youngest daughter, came into the kitchen a few minutes later and pointed at the same door. "Mom, there's another one." Swallowing hard, I turned to see she was right.

    We've lived in our home for 20 years and never had a snake indoors before then. It turned out Dale accidentally left the crawl space door under the house open in the fall. The snakes saw it as a welcome sign and took up residence. Once winter was over, they decided to go exploring. Thankfully, we haven't seen another snake in the house since.

    That night, as I thought about that open crawl space door, Ephesians 4:26-27 came to mind: "'In your anger do not sin': Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold."

    The open door in my house was much like the foothold referred to in that passage. A foothold in our lives is an open door of opportunity Satan uses to gain access.

    Scripture cautions us to guard the door of our hearts because Satan is always looking for a way in (1 Peter 5:8).

    Many times we don't realize he's gotten a foothold until anger and anxiety stare us in the eyes and say: Here I am, now what are you gonna do about it? We can choose to ignore it, be afraid of it or engage in a battle that will define our lives.

    A good starting point is to take a look at our thoughts and emotions. Is there someone we harbor resentment toward? A situation we replay over and over in our mind, causing untold anxiety? A wound that is still sore, years later?

    These are indicators of unresolved anger — anger that has been carried from one day to the next to the next, maybe even for a lifetime. The enemy uses these open doors to come between us and God, tear apart relationships and hurt our Christian witness (John 13:35).

    To avoid these destructive conditions, Scripture tells us to quickly get rid of anger so the enemy has no foothold. I don't know about you, but I don't want to live with snakes in my home or an enemy in my life. So how do we close the open doors?

    • Trust God to be your defender. Holding a grudge sets us up to think our anger will avenge the wrong against us. But it doesn't; only God can do that (Romans 12:19).

    • Even if you never receive an apology, forgive anyway. Ephesians 4:32 says, "Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (NIV). This verse helps me to recall God's great forgiveness for my own sin.

    • If possible, follow the prescription of reconciliation in Matthew 18:15-17.

    • Desire for God to be glorified more than you long to be justified (1 Peter 2:12).

    Imagine what my house would be like if we left the door open. I wouldn't want to live there! Every now and then I double-check the crawl space door, just to be sure it's closed. And I double-check my heart for any footholds of anger.

    Lord, please help me be aware of open doors and to close them through trust, reconciliation, forgiveness and honor. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

    TRUTH FOR TODAY:
    James 1:19b-20, "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires." (NIV)

    1 Peter 5:8, "Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour." (NIV)

    REFLECT AND RESPOND:
    Are you holding on to any anger or grudges? Ask God to forgive you and heal your heart.

    Do you need to ask someone for forgiveness for your actions? Can you do that today?

    © 2014 by Sharon Glasgow. All rights reserved.

    Proverbs 31 Ministries
    630 Team Rd., Suite 100
    Matthews, NC 28105
    www.Proverbs31.org

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